07-03-2012, 06:57 PM
Times have changed again old timers. We get families young these days. Stop being jerks and give us helpful advice on how to get a mate, not when, but how.
Attitude was everything in the "old days"...it still is. Work on yours and stop being such a jerk That really IS helpful advice but this thing about advice....You can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink:biggrin:
Here is some other random helpful advice.
Whining about men and blaming everything on the other guys is soooooooooooooooo counterproductive.
Take responsibility for your own actions and your attitude toward yourself and other people will improve immediately.
Lose the self pity and the neediness...it will repel men...not attract them.
Do not talk about your ex or drone on about what is "wrong" with everyone...YIKES.
Dont' put other people on pedestals because of the way they look.
Do not idealize other people...let them be who they are. When they are not who you decided they were in your fantasy you will most likely get mad at them and blame them for it and not take any responsibility for your own part. That is maybe THE KEY to everything in relationships or even when you meet a man.
Do not try to control everything around you. You arent really in control so it is a colossal waste of time.
Take the time you are single and develop a good relationship with yourself so when it is time you have something to bring to the table.
I am 54 years old and have been in a very happy relationship for the past 26 years and before that three others...I have not had alot of single time in my life and I cherished what single time I had. Even though I am old and undesirable according to society...I STILL have guys try to date me and pick me up on a regular basis...happened yesterday as a matter of fact.
So consider my advice because I followed it myself and it has worked very nicely. In fact...I have not once complained about the man I am with to anyone nor have I ever trashed any of my exes to him or whined to him or anyone else about men being assholes and jerks (and I had my share of them.....scary ones too).
Attitude was everything in the "old days"...it still is. Work on yours and stop being such a jerk That really IS helpful advice but this thing about advice....You can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink:biggrin:
Here is some other random helpful advice.
Whining about men and blaming everything on the other guys is soooooooooooooooo counterproductive.
Take responsibility for your own actions and your attitude toward yourself and other people will improve immediately.
Lose the self pity and the neediness...it will repel men...not attract them.
Do not talk about your ex or drone on about what is "wrong" with everyone...YIKES.
Dont' put other people on pedestals because of the way they look.
Do not idealize other people...let them be who they are. When they are not who you decided they were in your fantasy you will most likely get mad at them and blame them for it and not take any responsibility for your own part. That is maybe THE KEY to everything in relationships or even when you meet a man.
Do not try to control everything around you. You arent really in control so it is a colossal waste of time.
Take the time you are single and develop a good relationship with yourself so when it is time you have something to bring to the table.
I am 54 years old and have been in a very happy relationship for the past 26 years and before that three others...I have not had alot of single time in my life and I cherished what single time I had. Even though I am old and undesirable according to society...I STILL have guys try to date me and pick me up on a regular basis...happened yesterday as a matter of fact.
So consider my advice because I followed it myself and it has worked very nicely. In fact...I have not once complained about the man I am with to anyone nor have I ever trashed any of my exes to him or whined to him or anyone else about men being assholes and jerks (and I had my share of them.....scary ones too).