Is it worth ruining what could be a good relationship because of the whole top or bot

[princealbertofb]

However.....
I think there is a however to Bowyn's post... we are often surprised by what people will call themselves (top or bottom) in relation to how they look. Some tops look definitely less masculine than some bottoms... so go figure. :tongue:

[Matty71]

I totally agree with your post, Blake1122.

[spencer]

I tend to thrive best in the relationships that Bowyn Aerrow describes. If I'm in love with someone then we would be sexually compatible. That wouldn't necessarily be an actual choice of mine but just what would happen. If I'm in love with someone then I would love every part of them. Which would include sex and then the top or bottom thing isn't an issue. But, since I am not comfortable with topping I will probably not fall in love with a bottom(and didn't). I might be able to assuming outside the bedroom they were very dominant/masculine/etc. If I was in love with someone and we were having a top/bottom issue, I would of course be willing to work on it and explore alternatives but I wouldn't break my sexual boundaries over it.