How To: Be the Best Bottom You Can Be

[ATXtoLA]

Great information for the Castro Boys. Bad data for the South of Market guys - especially those in Dore Alley at 2:30 AM...

If you have to struggle to get into the mood, needing to edge for a few days then you are not really an anal bottom.

Everything you have described (aside from poppers, more on this below) Is straight vanilla anal sex.

There is a lot of gay men who like it rough, raw, raunchy. There are guys who take fists, arms, traffic cones, small cars and even take on Horses and other well endowed creatures.

Your 'list' works for you and SOME gay males, it doesn't work for all of them. It may be a majority of gay males (bottoms) who don't do enemas, are aiming for a major ass stretching, who don't want it lite and sweet but actually want it hard and rough - starting off with having the top slam it all the way home right from the start or being gang banged in the style of rape.

Poppers: Why stop there? There is a plethora of chemicals out there you should also recommend if you are going to push poppers.

Meth mixed with Viagra = Marathon Sex. 4, 6, 8 hours of non stop ass fucking - trust me when you are tweaking hard on meth the last thing you think about is wearing a condom or if that lube hasn't evaporated or not 2-3 hours ago.

Condoms - always and forever optional. You don't need a condom to have sex.

We wear condoms to prevent the punishments of having sex - STD's. There are many men out there who don't care if they get the HIV or some other STD.

If you need all of these things in your list, fine go for it.

Your list is not being the 'best bottom' for the whole crowd. In fact there are those who think this is the list to become the worst bottom ever.

Its called perspective.

i LOVE your response Bowyn. my list is definitely about perspective, maybe it should be aimed toward first timers or guys who have trouble bottoming?? i just listed what makes me feel best and i totally agree it's not for everyone.

if i'm not clean i'm not going to have a good time. my sex does not include a group of guys banging me or taking horse dildos or having my butt pounded now matter if it's against my will or not... and i'm not judging. i'm all for experimentation. how else are we supposed to be nasty pig sluts HELLO!

it's hilarious about sex on meth and drugs b/c it is so true! some of my best sex has been on drugs and yes there are LOADS of guys that are into PNP but i've been there, done that. def won't go back again. for me, the drug was getting out of hand and there were too many gay addicts not using condoms... the risk of contracting HIV was higher the the pleasure so i left that scene. that shit is not a healthy habit. let's be real.

this list puts me most at ease when i'm getting ready for ass play. and i fully agree it is def not for the whole crowd, but i'm sure it would help some "vanilla" gays.

I admit it feels strange to see this on your list. A lot of things is "optional" so why including just this one?

i would agree that most everything is optional. you don't have to use lube, you don't have to use an enema (my partner doesn't use one, but i do.) you don't have use fingers, you don't have to do drugs to have the best sex possible... i included it b/c i use poppers frequently when we have sex

[myapple]

Why wouldn't you use an enema? That is a must.

[East]

Why wouldn't you use an enema? That is a must.

A must? Hmmmm...I have ALOT of experience on both ends and never had an enema. I have been with my lover for 26 years now and we f*ck almost every day (maybe only 2-3 times a week now...starting to wind down a bit) and neither of us ever once used an enema...and that's alot of f*cking:biggrin: ...also no accidents or mess in all of these years. I think being in tune with your body and being clean is good enough. If I have any kind of problem I would not use an enema...I would refrain from having sex.

An enema for me is way too sterile and I would mentally lose any interest in having sex afterward whether I was top or bottom.

[Nick9]

i would agree that most everything is optional. you don't have to use lube, you don't have to use an enema (my partner doesn't use one, but i do.) you don't have use fingers, you don't have to do drugs to have the best sex possible... i included it b/c i use poppers frequently when we have sex

Ok, it wasn't the optionality that bothered me. It was the fact that you made a list what to do and put using drugs in it.
I would be offended if my bf suggested that to feel really good in bed with me he needed to use drugs. But it can be just me.

[East]

Ok, it wasn't the optionality that bothered me. It was the fact that you made a list what to do and put using drugs in it.
I would be offended if my bf suggested that to feel really good in bed with me he needed to use drugs. But it can be just me.

I can assure you that it isn't just you. I know what poppers are like and enjoyed them occasionally many years ago but if they ever became a requirement?....not cool.

[ATXtoLA]

Ok, it wasn't the optionality that bothered me. It was the fact that you made a list what to do and put using drugs in it.
I would be offended if my bf suggested that to feel really good in bed with me he needed to use drugs. But it can be just me.

i didn't know poppers were considered a drug.

[myapple]

A must? Hmmmm...I have ALOT of experience on both ends and never had an enema. I have been with my lover for 26 years now and we f*ck almost every day (maybe only 2-3 times a week now...starting to wind down a bit) and neither of us ever once used an enema...and that's alot of f*cking:biggrin: ...also no accidents or mess in all of these years. I think being in tune with your body and being clean is good enough. If I have any kind of problem I would not use an enema...I would refrain from having sex.

An enema for me is way too sterile and I would mentally lose any interest in having sex afterward whether I was top or bottom.

What about oral sex? You don't stink back there?

[East]

What about oral sex? You don't stink back there?

What kind of oral sex are you referring to?

As for stinking back there...staying clean is not an issue so any potential stink is not an issue.

[Nick9]

i didn't know poppers were considered a drug.

well, as far as I know they are not legal in all countries. I guess mine is one of them.

[BrianNguyen]

you guys are cool,there's a lot of good reasons for bottom. ! Tk's