what's his trick playing on me?
07-04-2012, 07:21 PM
I just remembered something an internet friend told me: her gay male friend had a relationship with someone online to the point that even though they hadn't met they were going to get married (*). As the time of the wedding got close his online lover revealed something: she was a woman! For some reason she saw herself as a gay man in a woman's body and the only way she could be in a fulfilling relationship was to get into one with a gay man online. So maybe you've met her (or someone like her). :o
(*Btw, which is more surprising: that 2 people who never met face to face were engaged to get married or that I was blown away by this concept? My friend thought there was something wrong with me for not realizing "it's very common." None of my real life friends see things her way and it just occurs to me to ask my internet friends now.)
ETA: Apparently I wasn't clear on what concept blew me away so here's a clarification:
I was referring to the idea that someone could get engaged and promise to marry without ever having met face to face. I can understand falling in love on the net, but before making such a decision it seems to me that one should meet to see if the chemistry is still there when together (which it sometimes isn't, even when both are exactly as advertised), as well as meeting friends, family (if possible), etc...and then there's the idea of moving in together, one is going to have to move, and even if that's easily done with no regrets living together in person (especially if there are pets involved, even more so if both have pets) is much different then communicating online. I just can't imagine getting engaged without ever having met face to face.
(*Btw, which is more surprising: that 2 people who never met face to face were engaged to get married or that I was blown away by this concept? My friend thought there was something wrong with me for not realizing "it's very common." None of my real life friends see things her way and it just occurs to me to ask my internet friends now.)
ETA: Apparently I wasn't clear on what concept blew me away so here's a clarification:
I was referring to the idea that someone could get engaged and promise to marry without ever having met face to face. I can understand falling in love on the net, but before making such a decision it seems to me that one should meet to see if the chemistry is still there when together (which it sometimes isn't, even when both are exactly as advertised), as well as meeting friends, family (if possible), etc...and then there's the idea of moving in together, one is going to have to move, and even if that's easily done with no regrets living together in person (especially if there are pets involved, even more so if both have pets) is much different then communicating online. I just can't imagine getting engaged without ever having met face to face.
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