Being secure in yourself to the point where you can enjoy the things that you do, feel the emotions you were meant to feel and be the unique person you were meant to be without worrying what other men (or women for that matter) may think of you.
Going through life without pretension, taking things as they come without shaking your fist at the heavens and blaming your problems on everyone and everything except the one who is responsible.
Most of all...a REAL man solves arguments with diplomacy, tact and an understanding of all sides rather than using his fists.
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If we overlook the evident, is there even a difference between men and women?
When I am thinking about it... I am a bit shocked that I can't find any
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I'm in the middle of reading 'Growth Into Manhood' by Alan Medinger. Basically it's all about how with God's help you can straighten yourself out. (It's a dangerous book. Don't read it - unless you want a good laugh!) Medinger claims that homosexuals have not fully grown as men; they have stopped becoming 'men', whether they realised or wanted to or not. Medinger claims that we can grow as men by being accepted as men - this is possibly why we haven't grown, because we were rejected or bullied by parents and/or peers. How do we get accepted & affirmed as men? By "doing the things that men do" e.g. joining a rugby team or doing something similarly macho. (Personally speaking, if I were to join a rugby team not only would I be squished into mincemeat within 5 minutes, but I'd perv on all the hot ones in the changing room. Some way to stop being gay!)
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I once thought differently, but this is what I see. A man is someone brave enough to live his life the way he must. Makes no apology for being himself. And he never lets fear force him into silence. I just learned how to be a man.
I came out as bisexual, it is not easy right now, but life is getting better.
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