08-02-2012, 01:44 AM
Drew Wrote:LateBloomer is right. Dan Savage has mentioned the "death grip" phenomenon before in his articles, and I think it's true.
I have.....issues.....climaxing with a partner sometimes, but I think it's more of a mental thing, though. I think how and what we masturbate to *absolutely* influences our responsive when with a partner.
Slight tangent here, but Drew, are you aware of the term "spectating"? It's a form of "performance anxiety". Rather than fully submitting ourselves to the whole experience (and our partner) we kind of take the attention off our partner and put more attention on ourself. We become "detached" from the heat of the moment as we mentally "step back" to observe (and then usually GRADE) our performance.
Been there, didn't get that orgasm...til I jacked off later.
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Much better to lose ourselves in the passion of making love to our partner.
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