And, it's my own fault.
I am not very social, I am pretty much a homebody. I work a lot and do not go out often, really. I spend time at home with my roommate and cats. I am not really complaining about it, it's just lonely at times.
I am a bit "inexperienced" you might say - Only had rendezvous with a couple of guys which were nice, romantic times.  mile:
I believe in long-term relationships, not just sex.
I only came out recently and honestly am not even actively searching for anything - Everything in due time...
I do like gay bars, discos, watching guys dance, having a drink or two but I do not go there and have not for years. But, I want to have fun, too. :redface:
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Thank you for reading this and letting me express myself[/COLOR]. 
~Matthew~
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My best advice....and I know it's going to sound cliche....but let love find you. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it. Trust me, that's what happened with me and my guy! 
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Matty71 Wrote:I believe in long-term relationships, not just sex.
I personally think sex is way to over rated. As Suzanne Sugarbaker once said: "I don't understand what the big deal is about sex. People write books about it, marriages break up over it. We're talking about what? Six or seven seconds here. I mean, it's okay, but not as good as, say, shopping or somebody putting a crown on your head."
I pretty much live by that motto, all except for the whole shopping & putting a crown on my head, those things just don't appeal to me.
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I wouldn't call that a fault, Matty 
You seem pretty ok to me, not hurt or depressed and it seems that you are just thinking about possibilities and new goals and how to achieve them. Maybe you simply need more time to pluck up the courage and go in those bars
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BigCub Wrote:As Suzanne Sugarbaker once said: "I don't understand what the big deal is about sex. People write books about it, marriages break up over it. We're talking about what? Six or seven seconds here.
Hmm, I certainly don't have sex just because of those seconds  But other than that, yes, you can build up a stable relationship (not just friendship) without sex.
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Thank you, guys, for all of your replies It's much appreciated.
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Nick9 Wrote:I wouldn't call that a fault, Matty
You seem pretty ok to me, not hurt or depressed and it seems that you are just thinking about possibilities and new goals and how to achieve them. Maybe you simply need more time to pluck up the courage and go in those bars
Funny thing about gay bars: When I lived in another, smaller city and was still "straight", I used to go to gay bars with girls all the time. :eek: Is that weird?
Anyway, I always enjoyed it! Big surprise, now, Huh? 
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I completely agree with you about being in long-term relationships and not just sex. We live in a oversexed culture and it's highly disturbing. What's the point of having casual sex with random people if I'm not getting paid for it? Sex should be intimate imo. I don't judge people who are sexually liberal or anything, but for me, I'd just rather do it with someone I actually have feeligns for lol. With STDs, STIs, HIVs, etc growing like crazy, I'm too chicken shit to have casual sex.
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you dont have to become a party animal but why not try to push yourself out of the safe routine your in, ask a friend for a night out etc - just something out of the norm for you
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I too tend to be a homebody, I certainly don't go looking for a connection even if I do go out. Yeah it gets lonely sometimes but, I simply am not a party person and, I'm not looking for a one night stand.
I do however have a temporary solution to that, of sorts. I also enjoy gaming, specifically MMO games and, in one such game my character is married to a pretty cool guy (Yes a gay marriage in game). In rel life we are both the quiet, homebody type and probably would hook up if we didn't live over 1000 miles from each other. In game we engage in mature role play (in locations where other players are unlikely to walk in on our conversations of course) and, via chat and email, we write a sort of a fan fiction, getting explicit with our characters.
No it isn't the real thing, but it is a fun way for us both to share our fantasies, even if they could never happen in real life and, we've both made a good friend in the process. At least it's a safe, healthy release for pent up frustrations and, it's fun. Amazing where a fantasy can go when two people are writing it.
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