Relantionship vs distance vs masturbating

[edkrfv]

Hello guys, long time no see!
This time too I am asking your help for one of my best friend who is very worried. He knows I read the forums and asked me for your (experts) advice. Here I go:
(My friend will be called Z and his boyfriends will be called U.)
”Z and U met online, and besides the many things they had in common, there was another important thing who they both like to do: virtual sex/masturbating with each other. Z tell me that they were friends for 4 months, and every day they would talk on the phone, Yahoo/Skype, and every day they would play with each other on Skype or via phone. Both of them enjoyed masturbating while watching the other one. After 4 months, they met in person and became a couple from that moment. Z tell me it was a love at first sight, and both agree to be a couple. Everything went super OK in the next months, they spent hours and hours talking, joking, making plans for future, etc. and playing with each other. Monthly they would met in person and everything was so great and OK.

Everything went Ok until after another 4 months Z got sick and a whole month he could not ”play” virtually with U, because of his condition. After that month of ilness, Z started to seldom the ”plays” with U because of the phisic extenuation from work and because he did not like it to do it daily, but they agree that U could play with himself watching their movies, or online movies, but no cam2cam or another living person.

U did not liked this situation, and tried to explain it to Z that he feels uncomfortable to play with himself instead of playing together like they did if before (daily). They would play together like once a week. Z tell me that besides work extenuation he does not feels to play virtually because he enjoys a lot when they play in person, live.

I know both of them, and they are a model couple for me, because they are really madly inlove one for the other. They are together for a year and a month, and they are getting along so well.

The main purpose Z asked you for help is regarding U's needs to play virtually with Z; Z tells me that in the past month he did not felt to play virtually at all, and does not find satisfaction in an online masturbation. U attracts him sexually and they have great sex when they meet in person. ”

What is your opinin or/and advice for my friend?
Thank you for your answers.

[princealbertofb]

This is an interesting post but I'm not sure I'm understanding the whole situation.
This is a couple who enjoy real sex in real life but who also needs (at least one of the partners) video stimulation? Are they living together? Or do they live separately and are distant from each other?

[Blue]

Well, my impression is that U has a higher sex drive that Z, and some of that is probably because of Z's medical condition and, work. Not everyone enjoys cybersex (online play) but, U does. U could ask Z if he would make a video of himself playing then, U could play the video while chatting with Z, and thus simulate them playing together without Z having to do it so much.

They sound like a happy couple except this minor issue, so they should be able to work around that, and be fine. Maybe they have another idea. I just offered one that worked with one of my ex-partners when we were apart - I like cybersex, he didn't so, he made a video for me.

[Rainbowmum]

Every one get turned on differently ,perhaps U get's more turned on by cyber sex than Z does.
I do not see where the problem is here, unless Z is getting turned off by U's needs.

They meet once a month , so I gather they do not live together.
In any relationship you will find that some sacrifices must be made and most are made via love.

Z needs to remember that he once was very turned on by the cyber sex.
Perhaps this is U's way of getting through the month , and keeping the spark alive.

[edkrfv]

Thank you for your answers, princealbertofb, Blue, Rainbowmum!
I have read Z your answers. He told me that U already watches a clip with Z and U making love. They have few videos that U watches them and plays with himself, but U wants to play with Z again, like they did it before.
Thank you again!