I kind of go through these phases where I am on top of the world and then seem to jump off the cliff (unintentionally) into this dark void of loneliness. I guess its normal to feel this way sometimes, but its sort of why I joined this site originally. I think I feel like I just don't have the people to talk to. Yes, I am engaged to a great guy, but I feel like when I talk to him about this he doesn't know exactly what to do. I feel like making friends and talking to people is his bread and butter, so I think I get jealous of him and that's why whatever he tries just doesnt help to make me feel better.
Does anyone know how I could climb out semi-permanently?
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For me, a handful of friends is enough, and even if I don't talk to them but once a month or so, that's fine. I can't say I've ever felt lonely. Sure I've spent much of my life alone, but never felt sad or depressed because I was alone.
Maybe that's because I learned young that in the end, I only have myself to rely on for anything, and that includes company. As I was taught young, all you really need in life is a good bed and a good meal, anything else is a bonus. That includes a partner, friends, and such for me. Sure they are great to have, but I'm not lonely just because I'm alone.
I have my hobbies and animals, things I like to do to keep myself occupied and, for me being alone means I can do things my way in my own time and not have to answer to anyone, or wait on anyone when I'm out doing things. I enjoy it.
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bhrc, I think this feeling may be deep rooted in how you lived before, in your youth... there must be a long history there... It could also be that you are prone to depression but have never noticed it was so. What do you reckon? Plus, how recent is your pledge to your boyfriend / partner? Is it so recent that you haven't yet learnt to unhinge from an old mood swing?
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