09-13-2012, 03:31 AM
So,
I've recently begun a class called Psychology of Sexual Orientation, great class by the way. The other day we had a discussion about two point of views for the origination of sexuality: The essentialist view, who believes orientation is innate and the social constructivism, who believe it is learned or a choice.
Anyway, we were asked to turn to our neighbor and tell which side we felt was more valid. When I talked to the guy next to me, he told me that he was homosexual by choice. He used to date women but when he was 16, he fell head over heels in love with a guy and thought "hmm maybe I am gay" and have since then identified as homosexual. I told him that I could relate as far as liking girls in my earlier life but for the last 10 years, I have consistently been attracted to guys.
My question for you are:
Can you really decide to be gay or have homosexual attractions? Can you make yourself like one or the other?
I think of myself and how I was attracted to girls. I even masturbated to them late elementary school. Then one day I wondered if I would like thinking of a guy and totally thought of guys throughout middle, high school, and adulthood. Now I rarely think of girls, I would say three times in the last 5 years just to compare the feeling I get nor do I get that WOW! I get when I see guys.
I've recently begun a class called Psychology of Sexual Orientation, great class by the way. The other day we had a discussion about two point of views for the origination of sexuality: The essentialist view, who believes orientation is innate and the social constructivism, who believe it is learned or a choice.
Anyway, we were asked to turn to our neighbor and tell which side we felt was more valid. When I talked to the guy next to me, he told me that he was homosexual by choice. He used to date women but when he was 16, he fell head over heels in love with a guy and thought "hmm maybe I am gay" and have since then identified as homosexual. I told him that I could relate as far as liking girls in my earlier life but for the last 10 years, I have consistently been attracted to guys.
My question for you are:
Can you really decide to be gay or have homosexual attractions? Can you make yourself like one or the other?
I think of myself and how I was attracted to girls. I even masturbated to them late elementary school. Then one day I wondered if I would like thinking of a guy and totally thought of guys throughout middle, high school, and adulthood. Now I rarely think of girls, I would say three times in the last 5 years just to compare the feeling I get nor do I get that WOW! I get when I see guys.