01-13-2008, 08:27 AM
I think shadow is right. My BF is Japanese and I seem to surprise him about things I know about him - things he says even his mother doesnt know about him... But he doesnt know everything about me even though I wish to share everything. Some people just dont pick up inner feelings very well.
I can spend a few minutes with a person and sometimes I can make a judgement that this person is NO good. It usually comes out true. My BF has been surprised by my ability. It may take years for this bad person to show his true self but they usually do.
About good friends (not lovers).... it is sometimes confusing. I will be totally honest about a feeling, verbalize it, but for some reason the person doesnt get it. Maybe feelings have more to do with understanding another human. You can talk and talk and talk but sometimes the message never takes.
Last example, my mom has very strong feelings about my sexuality. She says that she loves me but hates what I am. This is such a contradiction in humanity that I dont want to accept her love and dont believe she loves me. I am a whole package so ya have to the the package not just the wrapping! We cant communicate about even the simplest things - she has, realistically, blocked me as her son. Whatever!
hope some of that makes sense,
frank
I can spend a few minutes with a person and sometimes I can make a judgement that this person is NO good. It usually comes out true. My BF has been surprised by my ability. It may take years for this bad person to show his true self but they usually do.
About good friends (not lovers).... it is sometimes confusing. I will be totally honest about a feeling, verbalize it, but for some reason the person doesnt get it. Maybe feelings have more to do with understanding another human. You can talk and talk and talk but sometimes the message never takes.
Last example, my mom has very strong feelings about my sexuality. She says that she loves me but hates what I am. This is such a contradiction in humanity that I dont want to accept her love and dont believe she loves me. I am a whole package so ya have to the the package not just the wrapping! We cant communicate about even the simplest things - she has, realistically, blocked me as her son. Whatever!
hope some of that makes sense,
frank