How do you know if you are gay?

[mihai]

1st of all you are a very "modest" person.
Try and acsually kiss a guy , see what it FEELS like; i am sure you did that since we all played "Spin the bottle" at 14 ...
For instance i had to kiss 5-6 guys to notice i like better than with a girl; sounds silly , i can;t explain it, worked for me

[hank]

I would suggest you rely on your own analysis of your sexuality. I always hated when people play "is he or isn't he", such a puerile behavior. Your boss may be attracted to you, so he is hoping, or he is a believer that there is a such thing as "gay dar". All of that is absurd. Your effeminate behavior is no indication of sexuality. I am a giant, a manly man,a mechanic, a country western music fan, a Christian but I like men. So if I can be bisexual you can be heterosexual. Your comfort around gay people in your gender is no sign of your sexuality, they are no threat to you sexually. As a boy I was raised in a southern anti gay house hold. It was taught to me that homosexuality was sick, disgusting, and perverted, I didn't follow heterosexual behavior, I just felt like a sick disgusting pervert. That was proof to me that it can't be my will to be bi or gay.

I really think you need to think for yourself, to hell with what others say or think, what on earth would they know any way.

[hank]

Furthermore, you are an expert in your own sexuality, the only expert, any one who disagrees is a charlatan. It's all in your head, how could anyone know better than you.

Sorry for my tone, it is my deepest petpeeve when people try to tell another person who they are.

[57lambertr]

if you're not sure... you're NOT gay ! you're just curious....get a blowjob and relax

[Double007]

I would say straight. You fantasize about women. Sure you might be turned on by gay porn, but do you fantasize about men? Not just sexually, but being with them? If you do, how often? It doesn't seem like you have much if any interest in guys. Porn involves body parts and makes you wonder what that feels like. That might explain the turned on part.

[dfiant]

Even though I have already given my best advice in this thread, I feel the need to share a joke that has been bouncing round in my head since I gave my advice.

Walk around with a prosthetic penis and randomly ask strangers 'Excuse me, does this dick in my mouth make me look gay?'

Sorry, it's out of my system now, so no more bad jokes....




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