10-06-2012, 11:23 PM
LivingProof, I'm not even going to read what my friends here have said or suggested but just give you my two cents' worth. You say you are a Cancerian, which, in my book is one of the signs that is really emotional on the inside and needs to toughen up the outer shell to protect that inside mushiness... Yes, it can be really squidgy.
Our bodies are the vehicle for our dreams, our souls and everything that goes on within us. I'd like to think that you didn't grow overweight by chance but maybe you thought you needed protection and the best way to protect yourself was to grow a thick layer of outer 'skin'. Just like seals grow an outer layer of fat to protect themselves from icy weather.
As you grow older and more ready to accept your inner feelings and desires, so too, are you trying to shed that outer shell, so you can be seen for what you're worth, so that the inside can shine more and be more visible.
All power to you for shedding those 40 lbs and take heart for losing some more. For one thing you'll fell more comfortable with yourself, and you'll also be doing your body a lot of good because you'll be saving your general health as well.
You can't suddenly change a hairy body into something that's totally hairless, naturally, but there's some amount of grooming that you can do to make your appearance look better... a change of clothes, a few items of jewellery if you like them, a haircut, the way your trim (or not) your facial hair... then finally the way you move that body.
Not everyone is into tiny twinks or thin (or muscled) model types. There's probably someone out there for you who'll accept you exactly for what you are.
Keep up the good work, forgive yourself if you slip from time to time, as diets are really hard to keep up. But maybe you'll find that your focus is what makes you strong and what helps you towards your goal. If that focus is a relationship, then I hope the partner you're thinking of is not interested in you for shallow reasons, but because your soul and endeavours match his.
Take care,
PA
Our bodies are the vehicle for our dreams, our souls and everything that goes on within us. I'd like to think that you didn't grow overweight by chance but maybe you thought you needed protection and the best way to protect yourself was to grow a thick layer of outer 'skin'. Just like seals grow an outer layer of fat to protect themselves from icy weather.
As you grow older and more ready to accept your inner feelings and desires, so too, are you trying to shed that outer shell, so you can be seen for what you're worth, so that the inside can shine more and be more visible.
All power to you for shedding those 40 lbs and take heart for losing some more. For one thing you'll fell more comfortable with yourself, and you'll also be doing your body a lot of good because you'll be saving your general health as well.
You can't suddenly change a hairy body into something that's totally hairless, naturally, but there's some amount of grooming that you can do to make your appearance look better... a change of clothes, a few items of jewellery if you like them, a haircut, the way your trim (or not) your facial hair... then finally the way you move that body.
Not everyone is into tiny twinks or thin (or muscled) model types. There's probably someone out there for you who'll accept you exactly for what you are.
Keep up the good work, forgive yourself if you slip from time to time, as diets are really hard to keep up. But maybe you'll find that your focus is what makes you strong and what helps you towards your goal. If that focus is a relationship, then I hope the partner you're thinking of is not interested in you for shallow reasons, but because your soul and endeavours match his.
Take care,
PA
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Just be you and work on you because you want to, not for anyone else, just for you and, if it pleases your man, all the better, that's a sweet bonus.
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