I am partially out, all of my friends know. But I just can't be out and open just yet. I want to but I fear aggravating people around me. My job requires me to be reserved, macho. And so on.
How do you live out?
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Personally im not shouting that Im gay but If someone asks I wont deny it.
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Sweetie , you are putting way to much pressure on yourself.
There is no rush , give yourself a break , you are not responsible for others reactions.
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Yo will note that my profile says out to friends and family. That's because those are the people I actually say "I'm gay" to. The rest can guess. I'm not hiding it, not advertising it either. AS for being masculine acting and looking, being gay or bi does not exclude those things.
Macho? As far as I'm concerned straight, gay, bi or, otherwise anyone that has it needs to loose that macho crap.
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really its dont care in the closet or out so every situation should be different:
it takes a moderate amount of bandwidth to maintain the lie.
-there will be days you fail and close associates will watch and remember. ya they shouldn't i know but they do.
-because there is a level of distraction you might fail un expected; for example show frustration quicker.
Its a no brainier if your 25+ and not married, never talk about girls. Close associates they already have an opinion about you. You can let this go but its nice to have people judge you for your accomplishments not rumor and innuendo.
A partner will want to share your life, and this generally puts both of you out.
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