What do you think of porn?

[Blue]

Porn is fine in moderation so long as you don't allow it to skew what you actually expect from a partner as far as how they look or how they behave sexually.

[Dreamer]

Is it unhealthy or okay in moderation?

It's normal, if anything healthy, and even great in excess.

[megumidesu]

from cracked.com
it's directed towards straight men about women in porn , but if you just change the gender pronouns / etc then i think it's still relevant to gay men / lesbians ~

Pretty much every sex expert in the world says that watching a porno together is a good way to add some excitement back into a stagnating sex life. It's the habitual use that's bad. That's when regular every day sex starts to feel bland ... And the more you expect her to conform to your every expectation, the less you're involving her in the act. You've inadvertently turned her into a warm sack of meat that's only there to facilitate your orgasm.

Her needs and desires get put on the back burner because she's too busy trying to be the impossible fantasy taking place inside your head. No, unlike the porn videos show, not many women were built to handle the 14 inch dildo that's as big around as your forearm. Nor do most of them have a desire to have a cock jammed into the back of their throat until they convulse and try not to puke on your pelvis. That's why the women in those videos get paid to do what they're doing. And it's why many of their moans in those kinds of extreme scenes aren't ones of pleasure.


The woman you're with wants to please you because that's how people behave in a relationship. But she doesn't want to do it by becoming something she's not. If she's into that sort of thing, fine. But even then, when she does act out those fantasies, she has to be doing it with you and not for you. Otherwise, they're going to start killing her mood more frequently until she finally has enough and the fantasies are all you have left.

[pellaz]

whatever...
porn video producers watch the torrents more than expected. they initiate most all the legal activity now a days.

[writerken]

I've been writing gay erotica for many years. Far from being a one hand read, erotica can inform and be very helpful to those coming to terms with sexuality. As long as there is no abuse involved and it does not become an obsession, then it is healthy.

[Pix]

Btw, I heard of one prostitution house (in Prague, IIRC) that exploited the "porn loophole" (that is, paying for sex is illegal, but paying people to have sex to be shared with consumers is not) by letting men come in and have sex and it's all on webcam so they sell the footage and thus the house and prostitutes get paid by the viewers.

I do hope safeguards for health & safety are taken of course, and that no one there is a slave, but that's just so clever I can't help but

[Kiid]

I love watching porn with my friend she and I just can't help but laugh at the awesome actin (<Sarcasm inserted)

[princealbertofb]

Because sex is such a vital issue for all living beings, and humans are not averse to it at all.... sex sells. Porn is just one of the facets of a sex life, and the sex industry. Of course it would be nice to think that porn stars just get into it because they enjoy a healthy sex life and fantasies and because they are exhibitionists (catering to everyone's natural voyeurism and curiosity). But there are times when porn can be a real turn-off, and I'd say it's when the actors are forced to do it through economic (or other) necessities.

Everyone here has agreed that porn is ok and pretty safe in moderation. It has always existed as a complement to human fantasies, sometimes maybe even as a form of existential spirituality, or an aid to transcendentalism. Like most products of the human mind, there's the porn that veers towards art and there's the porn that is just vulgar, often the motivation is just money.

One of the aspects of porn over the past 20 or 30 years has been to keep men and women safe of unsafe practices while satisfying their natural curiosity for things of a sexual nature (a vicarious experience of sex, so to speak) and feeding their fantasy lives. Unfortunately it's not all been safe for everyone, therefore we could also say that porn can be dangerous, especially all the barebacking porn which has led to HIV infections and the recrudescence of STIs and STDs.

Most of us have recognised that porn is not reality, and yet, to some extent, porn can or could be educational. I've recently heard a programme on BBC radio four that porn is likely to be part of educational sex or social studies in British schools, precisely because so many young people watch and consume it (even though they are technically under-age) and to counter the idea that porn is what is realistic to expect of a sexual relationship with another human being, or other human beings. Analysing how porn is made, what codes it presents and what fantasies it caters to is, to my mind, really a good idea. The question is what to show and how to present it. We'd need people who are really trained to this sort of thing.

[AquaKnight]

I personally believe just about anything can have a negative impact when abused....including porn.
It is all about having a balance because porn can become an addiction and negatively affect your personal relationships. Don't get me wrong I love watching hot studs go at it, but I know when i need to get way from the computer or turn off the T.V.

[archubbycub]

I happen to like porn myself, and I see nothing wrong with it so long as your partner doesn't have a problem with it. That is, if you have a partner.