11-09-2012, 12:46 AM
Bowyn Aerrow Wrote:In prison for 4 years for assault? He was 19-20 and some judge decided that his crime was that horrendous to send him away for 4 years? Or was this pea bargained down from something like attempted murder?
Over 95% of court cases end in plea bargaining. Only rich people can afford trial by jury.
Assault is serious, getting 4 years in prison for it strongly suggests a violent past.
I've been in relationships with men with violent pasts, it didn't end well.
Be very, very careful. Charming is a well learned masked that abusers learn to wear, its not until you are in the relationship that they allow that mask to slip.
It was self-defense. Someone ambushed him, and he retaliated. Attempted murder or not, mistakes don't always define people as one might think.
I can understand his anger, he's had a fucked up life, but he wouldn't lash out on me since I wouldn't give him a reason to.
Thanks for the warning, though. It's something I've thought through, and I know, by this time in my life, when to cut people off.