11-10-2012, 10:35 AM
There is nothing wrong with either of these apps, or indeed any of the 101 others that are out there, they all have a place in the technology driven 21st century. But what you need to have clear in your head is what you want to get out of them.
I have Grindr on my smartphone. Im not vain and Im honest with whats on my profile. Its also absolutely clear from the profile that Im not looking for any kind of a casual hook up or one night stand. And that I think is the crux of your wariness, because 99% of people who are using these services (and it doesn't need to be an app, it can be a gay dating site such as Gaydar etc) are only looking for one thing - and Im sure you can guess what that is!
You may be lucky and meet one of the 1% who are really genuine guys and looking beyond satisfying any immediate sexual needs.
The one thing I will say about the smartphone apps is that you may be surprised about what (who!) you find. If you think your the only gay in the village, switch on your smartphone app and you may be surprised to find that there are perhaps 50 others within a 5 mile radius who are at least looking for something similar. There is a downside of course, unless you set up the app the way you want, you are also showing the neighbourhood that you are also looking. Think of it as the modern take of popping your head out of the gay closet, you never know who you may find
Just remember that all the safety rules about meeting people for the first time always apply.
ObW
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I have Grindr on my smartphone. Im not vain and Im honest with whats on my profile. Its also absolutely clear from the profile that Im not looking for any kind of a casual hook up or one night stand. And that I think is the crux of your wariness, because 99% of people who are using these services (and it doesn't need to be an app, it can be a gay dating site such as Gaydar etc) are only looking for one thing - and Im sure you can guess what that is!
You may be lucky and meet one of the 1% who are really genuine guys and looking beyond satisfying any immediate sexual needs.
The one thing I will say about the smartphone apps is that you may be surprised about what (who!) you find. If you think your the only gay in the village, switch on your smartphone app and you may be surprised to find that there are perhaps 50 others within a 5 mile radius who are at least looking for something similar. There is a downside of course, unless you set up the app the way you want, you are also showing the neighbourhood that you are also looking. Think of it as the modern take of popping your head out of the gay closet, you never know who you may find
Just remember that all the safety rules about meeting people for the first time always apply.
ObW
x
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