Rumble I made the same mistake of trying to "play straight" for 21 years and it doesn't work. I ended up married with two kids and when I finally built up the courage to come out, everyone got hurt. Even people in my life that I didn't think would be effected by it (my nephews for starters). Please please please, do not be embarrassed by this!!! Straight is NOT normal!! Normal is being yourself, regardless of your sexuality. Honey I still live with the regret of not having the courage to say I'm gay when I first started sensing my attraction to guys. Yes I know that it would have meant that I would not have the two beautiful children that I have today, but it would have saved a lot of heartache and pain. Plus it was an injustice not only to myself, but to the LGBT community as a whole. Be proud of who you are and don't let anyone make you feel embarrassed simply because of your sexuality!!
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sorry this happened to you but remember, being gay is part of nature and if you get married with a wife, im srry but youll highly regret and be very unhappy with your life. embrace who and what you are. it'll be tough for a while but once you get out (of the country) it might be easier and alot better for you.
like i told you, i told this girl who was my best friend at the time that im gay and she said she accepted me but in reality i was backstabbed. she started putting me down behind my back cus of it and ill tell you this. i confronted her about it but she didnt know i knew and she lied right to my face and denied everything so i told her off and to never speak to me again.
so beware of people... there are people wholl lie to you to make you feel good but really thats not how they feel. watch out with people.
nothing wrong with being gay.
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When im talking to you guys, its all okay. But not when im at the bus or in the class. I just want to be happy, why does everybody thinks they can point their view or even argue about it. I don't care if you can't tolarete me. Just walk away!
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I don't feel like I can comment on what exactly you should do as I don't live in Turkey but I'm inclined to agree with what Jay said. I feel like if I lived in a heavily conservative country I would follow his advice - it seems especially practical considering you're planning on immigrating anyway. Maybe just tell a few close confidants and no one else until you leave.
BTW, if you're really interested in coming to Canada I read an article recently which said that the Canadian gov't is planning on fast-tracking people who come here to study for citizenship. Perhaps this gives you more incentive to come here? In any event best of luck and stay true to who you are!
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pellaz Wrote:you as a straight; you try to raise a family and you will be sorry. Everyone; wife and children will be sorry too. if you are a kind man dont do it.
^ This.
I married an amazing woman that was in love with me; she poured everything into a relationship I agreed to, when I only agreed because I thought I could straighten my life out, pun absolutely intentional... That divorce was the worst thing I've experienced emotionally, and she still loves me, but it was one of the biggest mistakes I made. It's good that you are here, it means you know the truth, and you aren't lying to yourself, so don't start now, the discomfort of that sham relationship will ruin you AND her.
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jay and 2345434 or anybody who reads this; do you guys have any information about how can i be an international student? should i apply somewhere or what? what about my grades? do i need to take a certain exam or something like that?
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I'm not an expert on the subject, but I'm pretty sure it's based mostly on your grades. Some universities in Canada (I've been told) also have an English proficiency test - however I imagine that wouldn't be an issue for you as you clearly already speak English. One thing you should probably be aware of, however, is that tuition for international students here is generally substantially higher than it is for domestic students. For example, I had a roommate one year who was an international student and he had to pay $16,000 a year whereas I only had to pay $8,000. The price of tuition probably varies a lot from university to university, however, so you should be able to find a uni with lower tuition fees than that if you make a point of looking for one. As for visa requirements, I know little. I imagine it wouldn't be difficult to get one if you had already been accepted to a university here, however. Hope this helps.
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Thank you for the compliment about my english. It means a lot to me. And about tuition; my family isn't really wealthy and i was thinking about working while i go to the college?
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Being Gay in my mind has never been a choice or something anyone can fix.
I like you wanted a wife, kids and all that, but at the end of the day it wasnt going to be the way i wanted it, it never is.
However i live a very nice life now, i accepted the fact i was gay, i got a GREAT guy who has stuck with me even in this most difficult time which i would of thought drove gay guys away, we are engaged and planning to get married, and we both seem to now have children on the mind, and once married and have a stable home again, we intend to persue some of the options we have to have children.
You see, though being gay, you can still have the things you want and be more comfortable with yourself.
I agree with the comments above, you need people to accept you, not try and "cure" you, because time and time people have tried and failed, even gay conversion therapy has proven to fail too, my front to that is if you can convert someone from being homosexual to hetro, then why hasnt a hetro to homo therapy appeared yet? its because its not possible.
Make gay friends like most of us have, share your stories and listen to their, listen to the types of life styles we have chosen for ourselves after finding out we were gay, then choose for yourself.
Never force yourself to find and marry a woman and have kids with her, ive had a couple of friends marry, have kids and then came out the closet. the results were not pretty at all.
We will be here to help, advise and become your friend(s) but first you need to accept yourself before you start making mistakes, love yourself for who you are, be unique! be one of a kind, be you!
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I love girls but not in that way. I don't think i can marry to a woman even if i want to. The person who's going to be my wife would have notice that i am not sexually attracted to her. I have encountered some sexual.. situations.. like i can feel their.. umm.. breast (i appologise for using that word:/) touching to me, or even seen them in exciting situations but i never felt anything in that way. Many guys would love to give so much to be in my place, i know that  . But i am just.. not attracted. There is nothing i can do about it, i tried, it doesn't work.
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