Learning new tricks at 48

[Geminize]

Hey gang. This is my introductory first post, but it seems to belong in this forum.

I am 48, 2 years divorced (after 19 married), part-time single dad of two great teenagers. I didn't want the divorce, but that's life. It did NOT have to do with my sexuality, but I have always been attracted to both men and women. I took the straight path, though, and never explored with guys at all. The silver lining of the divorce is that I am now free to explore and express.

A year ago a guy came on to me at a Halloween dance. He never took his mask off and I had no idea who he was. I wasn't ready, but it was a nudge for me to consider what I wanted sexually. We danced briefly, he told me his first name, but I went home not knowing who this guy was. It was a couple months later that I finally placed him, but we had no further contact.

Then the guy from the dance showed up on grindr. I live in a small community, and I'm not out, so I limited my use of the app to when I was away. I happened to turn it on at home to change my profile when he came on and said hi. After texting, then taking a break to consider what I wanted to do, I called him and we talked for 3 hours.

That led to my first date ever with a guy. We went for a long walk, went out to dinner, then back to his place to talk late into the night (nothing more). Since then we've walked more, gone for lunch, and made out at my place. We are getting to know each other, becoming friends before jumping into bed, and that feels awesome.

So I don't have a question. I'm not looking for advice at the moment. Since I'm not out it will be interesting to see how this unfolds. I have few friends I'm ready to share this with, so it feels good to write about it here. If you've read this far, wow... thanks. I hope my story is somehow helpful to someone out there.

[princealbertofb]

Hey gang. This is my introductory first post, but it seems to belong in this forum.

I am 48, 2 years divorced (after 19 married), part-time single dad of two great teenagers. I didn't want the divorce, but that's life. It did NOT have to do with my sexuality, but I have always been attracted to both men and women. I took the straight path, though, and never explored with guys at all. The silver lining of the divorce is that I am now free to explore and express.

A year ago a guy came on to me at a Halloween dance. He never took his mask off and I had no idea who he was. I wasn't ready, but it was a nudge for me to consider what I wanted sexually. We danced briefly, he told me his first name, but I went home not knowing who this guy was. It was a couple months later that I finally placed him, but we had no further contact.

Then I discovered craigslist personals and grindr. While travelling away from home I had my first hookup with a guy through craigslist. Believe me... it took me hours to weed through dozens of posts, choose a few to respond to, then narrow it down to one I felt ok actually meeting! Even then I was nervous and built in some safety to our hookup. He was cool, clean, and attractive, and I got a fine bj.

Then the gates were open and I hooked up with several guys over the next few months. It turns out there are plenty of horny 20-somethings more than willing to play with a guy my age who keeps in shape. Although that was a pleasant surprise, I soon found myself wanting something more meaningful.

Then the guy from the dance showed up on grindr. I live in a small community, and I'm not out, so I limited my use of the app to when I was away. I happened to turn it on at home to change my profile when he came on and said hi. After texting, then taking a break to consider what I wanted to do, I called him and we talked for 3 hours.

That led to my first date ever with a guy. We went for a long walk, went out to dinner, then back to his place to talk late into the night (nothing more). Since then we've walked more, gone for lunch, and made out at my place. We are getting to know each other, becoming friends before jumping into bed, and that feels awesome.

So I don't have a question. I'm not looking for advice at the moment. Since I'm not out it will be interesting to see how this unfolds. I have few friends I'm ready to share this with, so it feels good to write about it here. If you've read this far, wow... thanks. I hope my story is somehow helpful to someone out there.

Operative word, that! Well, Geminize, it's nice to have you onboard, and so I'll start by saying to GaySpeak. Feel free to ask anything and express anything, as long as it is not rude to any other member here. We like people to be civil. :biggrin:
So this is a completely new area for you, is it? It looks as if you haven't wasted your time crying over spilt milk, however. You've moved on to what most of us really crave, eventually: the meaningful relationship. Sowed your wild oats, been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, and so what comes next? Well, hopefully you'll fall head over heels in love again, (Does it have to be a male, or is that "bi" label just convenient for the moment?) and pick up the pieces of your romantic life and start over again.
It's nice to hear that you have teenage children whom you are really fond and supportive of. They'll be your rock in times of trouble and a source of (almost) unconditional love.
Well, good luck, and take care. Maybe you'll find love when you least expect it. I know I did.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

Welcome to Gayspeak Geminize.

Your circumstances are not as unusual as you might think, there are quite a few of us "ex" straight, formally married guys on here, and all older than the average age of the members on here.

You sound like your doing just fine, and thanks for sharing your experiences to date.

We are here if you have any questions or need advice. There are a few members who bark more than they bite, but you'll soon recognise who they are ;-)

ObW

[Geminize]

Well, hopefully you'll fall head over heels in love again, (Does it have to be a male, or is that "bi" label just convenient for the moment?)

I feel truly bi, open to new relationships with men and women. I have been exploring with guys this year, since that is something I never allowed myself to do in the past. So far, I am enjoying the masculine attractions and energy. I do get twinges of missing a woman's touch, as well. It's been quite a year for me.

Thanks for the comments, PrinceAlbertofb and ObW!

[Miles]

Welcome to the site, hope you like it =]

[Rainbowmum]

Hello and

Make yourself at home , you will be surprised at the amount of the ex straight people here.