Date or Hate

[southbiochem]

date...oh how I wait to get into arguments with you..(mainly cause I can foretell how the make up sex will be like )

I am very very much obsessed with attaining material stability (stable job, check, my own place, next goal.....) before I really throw myself out there for guys to notice me D/H

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hm... all joking aside, while I like the idea of a stable guy who can do that which I cannot (care about money beyond today), I like the idea of stability but it actually scares the crap out of me.

Sure I joke that I want to meet a guy that will put me in a lifestyle most wish to become accustomed to, the reality is I like poverty, I like the honesty and simplicity of having little next to nothing.

And while we are on the honesty run here, let me tell you I think, you work too much, two jobs? For what? I want for you to be happy doing whatever it is you do - if doing what you like doesn't pay the big bucks so be it, be happy with your job.

I'm accused of being slightly immature because I never balanced a budget or saved up a retirement fund or owned a house. But you know what, I am content with my life - ok not totally but that is due to other things, not my income bracket. Contentment brings with it true happiness.

So will I date you? I don't know. Maybe.... If I can break you of some of those deadly habits that lead to unhappiness and get you to do something that makes you happy.



^^^ Whatever I said above - my leanings toward life in general - H/D?

[southbiochem]

Date to all you say..you and me, given our patterns of behavior can very well make it work finding a middle ground

while we're at it

Oh trust you me, I am not pursuing the (Latin) American Dream. My material desires are limited to a place of my own. Whether that home has uber fancy things I could care less, whether I have a car I could care less. Whether the actual place is something uber big or whatever, I don't care.

What do I work 2 jobs for? Well, to pay off my student loan hopefully in less then 10 years. Also my big sis is a teacher..hence, economically dependant on me.

Family is a big deal here in the ye old Catholic-influenced countries and damned I be if I don't help her (not that I don't want to of course)

What happens with Bob and his vultur children, Bowyn, would hardly happen here, even though when we do have our own shitty flaws here "South of the Border": the "clan" mentality for example, where even your great grand parents, granted they're alive, think they have a say in what you do.

But the point is, someone in this world is economically dependant on me,

I barely bought myself a Nokia 100 (yeah, 2007 stuff, really outdated) cause I don't need a complicated phone and I only did it cause I washed my previous one along with the laundry.

I buy clothes for sure, every 2-3 years or so. Nothing overly pricey.

I share the house expenses with the parents. Other than that not much more expenses.

Ok, I grant you the fact that even considering the above, having 2 jobs is not necessary.. I am simply a work-o-holic. And you're quite correct it does not actually make me happy, if anything I use it to not have a minute left in the day so I won't start thinking about my unhapiness

But my key word Bowyn is STABILITY. To have a base.

My sister had appendicitis this year. Where do you think she got the money for medical expenses. From me.

I will not have myself be like her, sir. I do not what anything to happen all of the sudden and find myself I don't have how to pay for what it will cost.

Stability is of the utmost importance to me because I'm monogamous-oriented, however that WILL cause me trouble when I dive into dating, I want and will make long term plans, and long term plans require a base from which to make projections.

You are a 1966's child in Cali...forgive me if I'm wrong but you must have some "flower child" on you. (yes, yes other things also went on with you)

I am a 1987's child in Chile. Conservative and structured behavior is within my mindset. I will never enjoy freedom if it means taking uncalculated risks. I will not lift a finger to move out there if I don't have a clear budget with which to work.

See what I mean?

^All of that shit^ D/H

[Evan88]

.... It's also what i am thinking at the moment. I wanna be more financially stable, with enough money on my bank, probably with my own place and of course with the most stable job before i throw myself out there. Cause if not, then i dont feel like i am worthy as a partner....You have a very mature perspective in handling your life, and it would very much help you & your partner to have a balanced and harmonious life in the long run. Date...

I sometimes try to like your interests and hobbies...before i am not really into so much movies, but i became fond of it... Though i have my own interests, i would try to like the things you like d/h

[trywait]

date. trying new things is always exciting and fun

I don't have tattoos although I want one, I scared to actually go and get one

d/h

[Evan88]

I dont have too...not a big deal to me. Datee

Im attracted to intelligence d/h

[elad12]

Date: not sure if it will work out though (ha ha, just kidding)

I appreciate very open minded people

D/H

[southbiochem]

I'll date you for that, but you probably won't date me, cause I'm somewhat narrow minded, conservative and structured. Which is a bit of a dicotomy for a gay guy..

I can a great deal of time lying in bed with you, legs wrapped together, arms around each other.

Looking into your eyes and not saying a word. Playing with your hair. Touching your face

D/H

[CellarDweller]

date

Spooning while we sleep

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Date....

Flower Power child of the 60's....

Touche'... H/D?