am I gay?

[Counselor]

Welcome to the forum! Anal, in and of itself, isn't gay if you aren't interested in the idea of another guy delivering.

[princealbertofb]

I think your question has been mostly covered by the other people here. The good part about your masturbation session in this instance was that you were experimenting with your sexual sensations and what gives you pleasure. Once you're in a relationship, be it with a man or a woman, you might want to tell him or her how you enjoy being pleasured... It will also be your turn to try and find out what makes them tick, then it's a real partnership in enjoying sex together. For the moment you are doing what most 17-18 year-olds do when they don't have a relationship for sex yet. So enjoy it, be careful how you do it, and when you get into a relationship with someone, don't forget the golden rule of safer sex and protection. Other than that, the sex can be enjoyable regardless of how you like to have it performed. With a bit of luck you'll find someone who's open-minded and won't try to label how you do it. But obviously, you'll have to take into account that it might seem a strange thing to do or request, depending on who you do it with. I think the emotional connexion is probably what best defines 'gay' and 'straight'. It is not uncommon for straight men to enjoy a few gay fantasies. If they don't act upon them and never get together with a man, then that's all they are: fantasies. They fuel your libido and sex life. If you make the acts real with someone of your own gender, then you might consider yourself gay. I think you need to realise that the medical world also has a term for men who enjoy sex with other men but don't consider themselves gay or emotionally attached to someone of the same sex. They just call them MSM (Men who have Sex with Men), but that basically refers to a practice, not to a sexual orientation.
to GaySpeak, NotSure.

[bryandurel]

I would probably put you in the bi curious category. I'm not a porn man myself and prefer erotica so I can't comment on that. Keep on experimenting (safely that is) and see where you get.

[Evan88]

Maybe just curious for now.....

[notSure]

Thank you everyone. I appreciate the advice. I have been continuing to explore and experiment. I've found that I enjoy anal masturbation more than normal masturbation. I have Not actually seen any men that turn me on, but online and on TV, I do see a few men that um..."float my boat ". I will continue to experiment and take your advice. Thank you again.

[Marcelbi]

Notsure, I think you shouldn't over think it, I mean you're young and well I guess theonly thing you can do is explore your body. I have the same problem, now I get horny when I watch something online..I mean g a y po* you know....Anyway glad here on gayspeak people helped ya.

[rover330]

nope, you are not gay. my god. you might be an axe murderer, you might have dropped a nuclear bomb and killed 3 million people... you might have destroyed an entire planet.

but you didn't show affection toward another man. you can go to your grave with that assurance. that would be the be all and end all of any man's existence. men are supposed to kill each other. not show kindness.

no, you're not a fag dude. you can rest.

[rover330]

my god, the only thing men are supposed to do is murder each other in combat. not love each other.

sorry. just keep that in mind.