OK so some of you don't know me obviously so I'll start from the beginning of my story about this boy. It was October 2011 and "D" started talking to me trying to be my friend. You know nothing wrong with that. He was in a couple of my classes so I guess I caught his eye. We had some meaningful conversations I would consider I guess. So around December 2011 I start to realize that I like him. In February (this is another long story but I'll cut to the chase) he finds out that I like him but not directly from me. I know strange but I'm OK with it. He kind of starts avoiding me and I wind up apologizing. I never get a definite yes or no if he likes me as well or even if he's gay. It's not like he ever had a girlfriend though. And when we did talk he never talked about girls. 2 months past and now it's May 2012. He starts talking to me again as if nothing happened between us which I was alright with. It was pretty sweet. Then the summer happens; uneventful and we don't keep in touch. September rolls around and he never talks to me just stares at me. It scares me. He doesn't start talking to me again till November 2012 again like we're cool. But now for the past few weeks I have noticed that he gets super nervous and embarrassed near me. Something that I have left out is that when I talk to him my face goes beat red and I can barely even think of what I wanted to say to him. So I don't what to think of what to do or even what to think about him. I need some advice.
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Well, without meeting you guys face to face....based on what you stated, it sounds like he "likes" likes you, but doesnt know how to approach you about the subject.
Are you still in High School, or is this college? Depending on which it is, will depend on how this can be handled.
I HATE being stared at too, it creeps me out big time....and hardly anything creeps me out. But Ive had friends tell me that this means they REALLY like you, they just cant figure out how to approach you about thier feelings. Nobody wants to get turned down, so sometimes its easier to just sit there and look at the person in question while trying to figure things out. Which means you end up staring at the other person.
I would suggest the friendliest and easiest way to ease into this, is ask him to go to a movie with you....maybe have dinner afterwards, and then you can bring up the subject. Something like "Ive noticed you staring at me a lot. Does that mean you like me or do I just have spinach between my teeth"?
How ever you bring it up, try to add some levity to it, it will help "break the ice".
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High school, I'm 16 and thought you had to be 18 to sign up. That makes me a liar, oops. I'll definitely try that breaking the ice line hopefully without dying in the process.
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I don't recommend winking. It's very suggestive.
Is there something stopping you fromm asking him directly? As in, "Hey, you seem nervous when we hang out, is everything okay between us?"
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Ok can I have advice to learn how to say what I want to ask? Ha :frown:
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It sounds like taking the direct approach and talking to him in person may not be working well for you, due to both of you being a bit nervous. I would recommend getting to know one another better by chatting on line via Instant Messaging, E-mail, Facebook, etc. So, the next time he starts being friendly with you, ask him to exchange E-mail addresses. Find some activities that both of you can do together, like hanging out after school and playing computer games together.
Keep in mind that he may be straight, so tread carefully until you get to know one another well enough to confide any personal details like each others sexual preferences.
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This is a bit of an update so on Friday I asked for his phone number and received it (yay). Now I've tried twice to start a conversation with him through text and I get blatantly ignored. I will see him tomorrow but I'm pretty sure he's just going to hide from me. =/
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