I too endured sexual abuse at the hands of men when I was a child and youth and, have asked myself the same question - did abuse make me gay?
You know, I'll never know 100% for sure that it wasn't a factor at least but, that doesn't matter. Why I'm gay makes no difference to me. I am and I like me that way so, even if abuse was a factor in my orientation, it's okay.
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I was sodomized by the baby sitters son when I was 12. Before then I remember thinking about girls after that I became cock crazy. I feel that boy on boy sex tripped a switch in me making me bi.
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Thank you Elad and Mitch for posting about this. I too was sexually abused by a neighbor boy when I was 6 six. Multiple times actually. I didn't tell my parents about it until I was in my 20's and even then we didn't talk about it. I just admitted it and that I knew it wasn't my fault or theirs for what happened. It felt like there was a great burden lifted getting that secret out into the open and I found it could no longer fester within me.
While I may sound like a broken record here, I also wondered if this made me gay. I hated it at the time and didn't understand what was happening. However, as I got older and sexually matured I found I didn't have the mental blocks my friends had. Sure I liked girls, but why stop there? Boys were just as much an option.
My interest in women subsided pretty quickly as I continued to mature. I used to consider myself Bi, but now thinking of female parts just doesn't interest me in the slightest. (Sorry ladies on this site. I'm sure it's awesome. I'll just have to take your word for it.) For me being a gay man is like tasting the forbidden fruit. There is just no going back.
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This topic so hits home. All I can say is that for me personally, my abuse seemed to be what got the ball rolling, so to speak. But, I still think it's a genetic predetermined type thing
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