Why did your best friend go onto that fake account ; how did he find it?
Up to you entirely if you want to lie about this or not, do whatever you think you can live with ,without regret and in safety.
I prefer the truth , but I am not going to preach to you.
We all do what we can to survive.
Just know that a real best friend is not going to worry about your sexuality , he likes you for you.
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Mitch Wrote:so, I was on my fake account on fb that i use to find men of my interest in the town, and I dunno why on earth i put my own pic on that account, and my best friend, just sent me request on that, I removed the pic right away and deactivated my account, now i am shaking to death what should i do, I am thinking of lying to him that someone stole it from my actual account(but i never put it on my real account) D: even though I had photoshoped it, the picture was identical
I once came out to him when i was unconscious(out of senses, not drunk though XD)
but I covered it up, but yet he thinks I am gay, and he doesn't like that because he is religious, I don't want to loose him, or should i just stand up and say him that its who i am and loose him? :S
omg I feel so miserable.
Well. I personally couldn't live in fear every day of my life. I would have to commit suicide or come out of that closet.
Perhaps that is why it didn't take me long to come out once I realized I was interested in guys "that way".
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Let's see, A friend suspects you're gay and you deny it to him. He's religious, you live in Pakistan. He's a religious muslim. If he really believes you're gay it's likely going to be a bit more serious than wagging the finger and telling you to pull your socks up.
Probably best ready yourself for the end of a friendship or be prepared to lie and obfuscate and whatever else it takes to cover your tracks. I'd normally say, come out, be honest, tell the world but I understand there are parts of the world where that's just not possible. Your options are limited, do what you can and come back here for sympathy and support if you need to.
Running slightly in your favour is that religious people are used to believing ten impossible things before breakfast, so telling lies and obscuring details to protect yourself are strategies likely to work. Your friend may suspect you are gay but he really doesn't want to believe it because his religious worldview tells him that gay is bad and his close friend couldn't possibly be bad. It's dishonest but in your situation I'd say needs must.
On a side note, I'll just observe that this reinforces my suspicion that facebook is pure distilled evil. Best of luck.
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If he is a real friend he would not care, so tell him and if u lose him he wasnt really a good friend
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If I was you, I will wait to meet him, and then see if he say anything about this 'fake guy'. ...
He is a friend, he can be so honest and straight and/or he will sospect something.
After that I think I was honest too, and if it's a real friend... You know.
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Mitch Wrote:well, I recently added someone who I think was mutual friend with his, I didn't know that, so maybe facebook recomended him my profile, and he could know that it was me in the picture because
1. He had seen the pic in my phone,
2. He knows I can use photoshop to change color of cloths so
3. He will be so sure that its me because we talked about the cloths and my surroundings in the pic
I dunno why I am making it a big deal D:
I hope he just clicked on ADD friend by mistake. lol
I'm sorry, somehow I completely missed your reply.
This is what I was getting at: he might not have been trying to root you out, he might have just been looking to see who is using his friend's photo to meet guys. No reason to panic. No reason for you to bring it up, either.
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In fact, Mitch, only you can measure how dangerous or devastating it will be for you to be outed by this friend (it is a possibility), and only you know what sort of grief you're prepared to take to be yourself, or what sort of friendship you have with this other man. It seems to me that you have to learn to be more careful, and you've learnt it the hard way. If you need to lie to be safe, then lie.
Most often you'll probably find that people don't care what you do in the privacy of your own home and as long as you don't rub their noses into it. They might start caring if you put them in a difficult or uncomfortable position, for example if you started flirting with them and were too pushy, but that doesn't sound like you. It sounds like you try to flirt only with men who think like you and who are looking for adventure with other men, otherwise you steer clear of men who could endanger your life and safety. Just be careful with how much you reveal.
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Well first of all, I think he might have got me via fb suggestions, I think he might have just sent me a f/r by mistake, you know those times right? because when I thought this through with open mind, i realized that he is not the type of person who would send friend request if he found such things, this has taught me a lesson about privacy issues on internet.
On the other hand, I read what all you said, and I really have come to this conclusion, that at first I would try to change the topic, but if he pushes on it, I will just tell him the truth.
Although to lie, I would have needed a 2nd person who could have been online on that account to prove that its not me, which I thought I could ask my bf, but then i realized that will put my relationship in weak spot, since my bf will start asking why I had fake account in the first place.
so in the end, I am going to come out to him if he gives me enough space. but I haven't met him since then, but its not a big deal though.
Thankyou everyone, I will let you know what happens when we meet 
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Sound's like a guy, I personally would not want in my life. I left behind friends like that, was it hard? Yes. But I've been better off for it.
Mick
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