how do yu split up tasking

[pellaz]

how do you and your husband split up tasking

[Counselor]

Easy, I'm not married. :tongue:


But usually, if I see something needs to be done, I just do it before it gets ridiculously out of hand.

Edit: oh, lol, the pic finally loaded! Where did you get that label from?

[Pix]

I do most of it. My partner is 42 and I'm 30, so I have a lot more energy. Plus, her job takes up so much time even at home, from lesson plans, to meetings, to contacting parents, to grading papers, it's a mess (I've volunteered to help her a little with that as well but she won't hear of it). Though if it counts, if we go somewhere together, even on a long road trip, she will do almost all the driving (as I hate driving), though I'm the one who takes care of the car otherwise.

Luckily I've got my flying monkeys (the kids) to help, not only with chores but even with crafts (which they get paid for) that I sell.

I don't mind it, though. I've always had to do chores since I was 5, and it's not like she's just sitting on the couch with Cheetos and snapping her fingers for me to make her a sandwich. I think all in all she spends more time working than me, and I'd rather do what I do rather than what she does.

[Blue]

Well, soon to be for us. We each have some minor limitations so, it's a matter or share, work together is possible and, if not whoever is better with it does it.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

For 12 of the the past 14 years I did the cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, deciding of home stuff.... Did all of the business stuff for my company, mowed, blowed, watered tended the garden and the yard, was week end mechanic on the vehicles. Handed my pay checks to him for banking purposes.

He balanced the check book and held a job someplace.

It was an equally spread out situation as you can see, well balanced, well thought out and both parties didn't fell used, abused, put out, over worked or anything like that.

Oh I'm sorry, was that sarcastic?

Next relationship I'm going to aim for more sharing, more work together, more doing for each-other. I hope to find out what our strong suits are and divide based on skill level.

To me this goal is more healthy and happy. I can assure you when you sit down and wait for two years for the house to be dirty enough to cause the other to at least say 'bitch clean the house' or maybe actually do the cleaning with no move or word there, it sends a lot of messages - well other than 'look you married a pig'... It tells you they don't care about us, don't care to have a home with you, just don't care.

I don't want to be there again.

[princealbertofb]

how do you and your husband split up tasking

Lol, completely disagree with this tag, but, of course, it's a joke... right???
In our house my man likes to do the washing, because, he says, it gives him a sense of purpose and he loves to do something useful to me... But if he's not here for a while, I'll do it myself. Thank goodness for washing machines, because although I have washed things by hand, it's not my favourite job in the house...
On the other hand, I really like cooking and will go out of my way to make my man, or any other guest(s) a lovely meal. I don't mind vacuuming, I don't mind washing up, despite the fact that I don't like washing cuttlery for some unknown reason... but I get it done anyway.
I enjoy shopping, but mostly if Marshlander is around, I'll enjoy going shopping with him (he doesn't mind). Sometimes if there's a good programme on the radio, doing the housework is a cinch. I've been used to housework since I was a child, our parents made us do it, so it's not something that I find demeaning at all.. Marshlander has done quite a lot of industrial cleaning in his younger days, and he can get the toilet really spotless, which I thank him for. A lot of scrubbing and elbow grease goes into bright shiny surfaces...