Cureable?

[Counselor]

Rumble, I seriously have tears in my eyes. I married a wonderful woman and wasted five years of her life waiting for some magic switch to change me. I thought she was the answer, that she could save me, and I was miserably wrong. I hoped that the heteronormative experience would open my eyes and everything would come into sparkling focus, and I have paid for it in great regret.

Please, PLEASE, don't wish to be anything but honest in what you feel.

[Beau]

There is no cure because there is no sickness. I'm with Counselor on this one. Having slept with a couple women in my day it didn't turn me straight. I always had thoughts for men. It's who I am.

I hope there is some LGBT support groups you can attend. It's much easier to accept when you find you are not alone. Trust me, it does get better.

[Genersis]

Well, lets look at having a "straight" life versus a "gay" life.



Gay Life---
Youre born. Grow up. Go to school. Have adolescent problems. Go to college (or not). Find work. Pay bills. Pay taxes. Have friends. Have relationships that work and dont work. Get hurt feelings. Possibly have a long term relationship. Maybe break up. Have lifes ups and downs. Then you die.



Straight Life--
Youre born. Grow up. Go to school. Have adolescent problems. Go to college (or not). Find work. Pay bills. Pay taxes. Have friends. Have relationships that work and dont work. Get hurt feelings. Possibly have a long term relationship. Maybe break up. Have lifes ups and downs. Then you die.



Geez, I dont see where a "straight" life is any better.

Unfortunately; a lot of people do not think living one's life as a homosexual(or any non-hetero orientation) is even similar to living as a heterosexual, let alone the same.

[SolemnBoy]

I don't want to sound cold but there is no "cure". We don't even know if we're born this way or if it's because of the environment we grew up in but it still cannot be changed. People can fool themselves into believing they managed to turn straight but they're just deceiving themselves.

Being gay, however, doesn't mean you'll have a bad life. I know it might be hard now since you're young (I think all gay teens have issues like this) but in the future you won't have to deal with the same kind of anxiety that you do now. Why? Because you'll have a life of your own and will be less "dependent" on what people around you (especially family) thinks

[Tyrion]

As far as I see it, being gay makes things more interesting .. but that said, I understand you not wanting to hurt anyone. However, there is no "cure," and I think you know that. You'll get through it though -- life won't always be a struggle!

[Kiid]

I understand how you feel. The world can be harsh towards gay people. Especially white society. Because it is taught to us how to hate and who to hate. The world is not kind and can be harsh. But things can get better. You can make things better. And things can get better if you try. You can do anything you want when you set your mind to it. Cheer up.

Gayspeak love xx

[dfiant]

The only time you need to fix something is when it is broken, your friend needs to fix his tolerance and intelligence....end of story.

[dfiant]

Of course being straight is an easier life.

Is it? I think I would actually find it rather difficult living a str8 life.

[Kat]

I lived the first part of my life being forced to be something I'm not and that's a horrible way to live. Don't try to be what you aren't when you have a choice and can be what you are, it isn't worth the rewards to have to live like that.

People around you get hurt, you hurt them but you have to because if you didn't, you would be being what you are supposed to be. I don't see why anyone would want to live with having to hurt people to be something they aren't.

[Rumble88]

Thank you everyone and i guess it already started to get better. I guess i've found someone.. maybe not im not sure but the point is, i didn't wanted to take that step because it feels like there is no coming back. I just wanted to give a last chance to trying to be straight. But i guess it doesn't really matter about love. I just want to be happy and i guess there is no reason for me not to be happy. Thank you all, really. I love you guys