For the first time in decades I have developed a crush. Its on a guy, just a regular guy. He doesn't give off a gay personality, which I like, but its hard to know if he is into men. I am not out in the open to the entire world, its a combination of shyness and that I just don't see the need to run around and introduce myself as gay hank.
That aside, I see him at work, he is at work also, not that that matters, is there any question I can ask or hints that I can pick up on?
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I would say the best and first hint should be somehow leaking that you are gay. I usually pull out my cell phone, pull up the stud of the day forum here and go to all the women and point at a picture and say, "On a scale from 1-10 how hot is he? I give him a ten." Just make sure he's there to see. I always find that less offensive than going up to him and going, "Hey pal are you gay? Because your really hot" lol
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There is only one definite way to tell for sure, ask him.
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The thing is, he works in a truck stop and I do a different job, wearing a badge and a gun and uniform. I could just "stop by" one night but that may not work, being that there typically aren't women there
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Try asking him, "You ever tap that sweet little number in reception?" If he says, "Yeah, she's a slut.", he's straight.
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I wonder if I am crushing because he is taller than me.
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Talk about gay marriage. At least then you can test the water if he's for or against homosexuality.
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I forgot how helpless it was to have a crush
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Hi*! I'm moving from Brest to Léchiagat wich is a small town*; my boyfriend (from there) owns a pub, and our custumers are mostly fishers, and farmers and truckers... sometimes quarrelers and rude but we're perfectly integrated, we give slapes lol. And sometimes, as everybody here knows we're a couple, it seems to be easier for some young of them to tell us and come out...
You both work in very masculine jobs too, and I think it's not easy to assume with coworkers*! So, I think with such conditions it's difficult to know if somebody is gay or not because the first reflex is to be very discret. For example, some of our custumers are really really far away the gay stereotype and I would never guess if they didn't tell*!
Difficult to give you a advice*! If you ask about the marriage, he could think you're straight... If you ask him if he 's gay, he could be wary and tell you the opposite... Maybe just let him know you're gay by himself*? (I don't know how)
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