hello there just need some advice on how to tell ma family n friends that am gay,any advice will be appreciated,thank u.
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tried tellin ma best friend but didnt go down well mmh as i thought.
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Welcome to Gayspeak! The best advice I can give is tell people that you would consider "safe" to tell. Ruffians that you recently met would be an example of people you might want to reconsider telling.
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granted they are the other 95% but when was the last time some one came to you looking for affirmation they were straight? Gay is not the new religion. Maybe different if you and your wife wanted the family over for holiday dinner but your single.
No need to out your self to people who will not be emotionally supportive. Start with friends, siblings, mother. You have been dealing with your sexuality your whole life so dont expect them to immediately come to terms with you being gay.
there are friends and than there are acquaintances and everything in between.
A very good friend would be supportive and say something along the lines; "what ever makes you the most happy". Acquire a few good supportive friend, be they gay or straight before you proceed so you dont feel out there all alone. There is no big hurry rush.
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Coming out can be difficult, scary, and sometimes dangerous. It can also be a nurturing, rewarding and wonderful experience. For most of us, the truth usually winds up somewhere in the middle. Some people will be accepting and others will not. The most important aspect to consider when contemplating coming out is not what THEY will think. It is "Are you ready"? Ask yourself if you are in a safe place for you? Are you ready for any reaction? What will be your response to a negative reaction from a friend? From family? And most importantly, are you coming out to someone who has power over you or your life? What will you do if that power is exercised in a negative way?
It is usually easier to come out in stages. I suggest first coming out to a friend. Get their reaction. Tackle the family situation last, and only when you are in a secure enough position to be able to exercise some freedom. And never address the issue in a large group, even with family. One on one is the best. The suggestion to look on line for advice videos is a great one, as well.
Good luck!
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sunaly
to the forum BTW. Your in the right place for some advice 