02-10-2013, 11:01 AM
Hi,
I was under impression that once you post something you can delete it - just change it. I have no idea where your first post disappeared. I have it still opened in another browser window though. I can send it to you if you want to post it again.
my answer:
Welcome,
I've read your whole post. Can you say in one sentence, what your problems is? Is it your friend? Is it your body or your state of mind?
I am afraid you hide your confusion behind the big words.
Don't guess what your friend thinks or feel. You may be completely wrong and if your decisions are based on the wrong guesses you can make your and your friend's life worse.
Accept that there are people who have no doubts. They look like men/womens, feel the same, they are happy as straight/gay. No gray zone.
Then there is a lot of people who have doubts.
Accept that you are you, unique. Unless you don't want to have the op you don't need to decide. And even if you want the op, there will be most probably a bunch of people, doctors, psychologists etc who will help you to make the decision.
I read once that one person on similar forum asked... Sometimes during my busy days I forget that I am transgender, mtf and I feel like a man. Is it okay?
I am afraid that it documents how much a person can be confused. Yes, it is okay. We are all different. Find what makes you happy.
Do you think about yourself in different body? Do you want others to see you in different body? Who do you want to spend your life with? Forget porn, what you watch says nothing about your sexuality.
Good luck
I was under impression that once you post something you can delete it - just change it. I have no idea where your first post disappeared. I have it still opened in another browser window though. I can send it to you if you want to post it again.
my answer:
Welcome,
I've read your whole post. Can you say in one sentence, what your problems is? Is it your friend? Is it your body or your state of mind?
I am afraid you hide your confusion behind the big words.
Don't guess what your friend thinks or feel. You may be completely wrong and if your decisions are based on the wrong guesses you can make your and your friend's life worse.
Accept that there are people who have no doubts. They look like men/womens, feel the same, they are happy as straight/gay. No gray zone.
Then there is a lot of people who have doubts.
Accept that you are you, unique. Unless you don't want to have the op you don't need to decide. And even if you want the op, there will be most probably a bunch of people, doctors, psychologists etc who will help you to make the decision.
I read once that one person on similar forum asked... Sometimes during my busy days I forget that I am transgender, mtf and I feel like a man. Is it okay?
I am afraid that it documents how much a person can be confused. Yes, it is okay. We are all different. Find what makes you happy.
Do you think about yourself in different body? Do you want others to see you in different body? Who do you want to spend your life with? Forget porn, what you watch says nothing about your sexuality.
Good luck