The Perfect guy

[bluefox4000]

Simple.....everyone i believe has a "one". He 's likely not it. Don't worry though...you'll him.

Mick

[MisterTinkles]

Even though most of us look for what we consider a "perfect" mate, in reality this is not who we know we need in our lives.

Who we believe to be "perfect" may be right in so many ways, but not the right person to make us happy.

Some of us need someone who are opposites of ourselves or what we consider "perfect".

And then again, too many people believe "perfect" is the ONLY option they have when looking for a mate.

What is "perfect" to you? Does this consist of mostly physical features? His job, his clothes, his looks, his vehicle, where he lives? If so, then this is want over need. This isnt someone you need in your life, this is someone you WANT in your life.

When you NEED a particular person in your life, its based on psychology.......does he have a good personality. Is he caring, is he honest, is he the kind of person who will be there to catch me when I fall?
Is he the kind of person who will be there when things get rough in life?

Finding "perfect" is a want, not a need. Finding someone you "click" with on a more psychological level is more of the need you might be looking for.

[ThatRobGuy]

Although someone may embody a lot of the attributes that you would consider "perfect," the pheromones, mental connection, etc. won't necessarily be there. This is what separates friends from something more. If there isn't the spark, there isn't the spark, and that's just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes.

[Rainbowmum]

Sweetie you cannot force yourself to love someone.
Yes he meets all of the requirements you think you want .

I promise you once you lay eyes on someone that makes your heart skip a beat , all those sensible requirements will be out the window.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Needs and Wants. Two vastly different creatures.

It took me a couple decades to figure out (and at least 4 miserably bad relationships) to discover that what I wanted in a man, thus thought I had found the ideal mate is not really what I need in a man.

Oh wait, no I haven't figured that all out yet... Still looking....

This fella might have all you want in a man, but is lacking things you need. Thus there is not that spark, that gravity whatever you want to call it that makes him feel like your better half.

[Aeneas]

you are too hot for your own good.


you will learn in time to manage other people's initial eagerness. you cant blame yourself for dismissing anyone who comes at you as if you were the last coca cola in the desert.