My boyfriend of 3 years tells me he is not gay anymore

[Rainbowmum]

Goodness you have me in tears.

First let me say welcome .
I am so very sorry this is happening to you.

I am afraid you Ex is being brain washed ,no doubt he is not thinking straight.
It's strange how many of these religious so called Christians confuse church doctrine,with Gods words.

Matthew 12:31 - All sins will be forgiven , except blasphemy against the holy spirit. Jesus died for this. And everyone that adds to the commandments or puts church doctrine above Gods word is a blasphemer.

Matthew 7:1 -Judge ye not for you will be judged.
Matthew 25:40 -What ye do to this the least of my brethren you do unto me.

John 13:34 -A new command I give unto you , Love each other how I have loved each of you.

Homosexuality Is not a sin ,if it were it would be in the commandments.

All they go by is what happened in Sodom and Gomorrah is recorded in Genesis chapters 18-19.
Which by the way was a proposed rape scene ,they were going to rape the angels, as we all know rape has nothing to do with sexual pleasure rather it is used as a weapon of power and control.

I honestly do not know if your Ex can see reason again , either way you have to start heeling and loving yourself more than you love him.

I am so very sorry, we are all here for you.

[bluefox4000]

Now you see why i wish religion would fuck off and die.

Mick

[Counselor]

Now you see why i wish religion would fuck off and die.

Mick

Quoted for truth.

[pellaz]

there are big things to avoid in life and religion and the religious is one. that being said tho its to late for you. You have a good heart and hope it heals. It is important you stay together the next few weeks so no more cutting the eye lashes.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

IF you were him I would tell him to find a gay tolerant/affirming church. http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/f...church.htm specifically your area: http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/u...nessee.htm

However I'm not talking to him, I'm talking to you.

Our paths through life is composed of things we cannot change and things we can change.

The things you cannot change are usually outside of yourself, how another feels, how another reacts/behaves. The things you can change are how YOU feel, and how you act and behave.

Faith is a fickle thing, belief is as well. Anything can change that as a moments notice, and I fear that faith and belief are typically blind and oft times stupid.

He and he alone is responsible for his actions. Perhaps some day he will see this error, i hope that day isn't too far in future where this can't be fixed.

Do plan for the worst and hope for the best. Planning for the worst in this case is go about preparing to be single. I'm sorry, there is no magic words that will make him change his mind.

[iTizzy]

UPDATE:

Thanks to everyone who has given their thoughts, views, and opinions. Hopefully someone who is about to go through the same thing will find hope in this.


Things have actually gotten worse to be honest. I still to this day have not seen or heard from Jazzy or my ex. I have tired to buy a new dog on 3 different occasions but that has not been successful. I have currently lost 99% of my friends. One of them actually told me that "I brought this hurt and pain upon myself." That actually cut me really deep and made me feel worst than I already do.

I maybe a fool some will say or stupid and dumb but I still am in love with him. I still feel we are meant to be. I have actually moved almost 600 miles away from him. Honestly, the life I live now some say its dumb and stupid. I feel i am just trying to heal and move on. I am starting not to believe in the existence of love maybe because of the life I live now.

I live a very fast life now drugs, sex, and money. My job is not a clean job but its a job without love and something I am no longer looking for. I DON'T TRUST ANYONE...not even my own family now. After taking on this new life that doesn't truly feel good, I am starting no longer care about life. I have never thought in my life of killing myself...for the first time i prayed that i would die. I pray this because I never want to hurt again. I don't want to cry another tear. I don't want to trust again. I don't want to be sold a dream based off my once was morals and values. I'm official destroyed.

[iTizzy]

Days leading up was our normal issues we been dealing with. Our sex life was great and regular so no problem in that area. He was actually excited about us lasting 3 years. of course both us were in college at the time and it was around finals. We always argue around finals because of the time that we do not get to spend together. I always asked him was he happy and I made sure I kept him happy...communication was something that we stressed upon each other. However, he is not the best communicator. I was going to see if we could go to couples counseling to make sure we are communicating effectively. The relationship ended before I could suggest the idea.

In reference of him not being gay anymore...before he officially stop answering my calls and text messages he said "Homosexuality was a choice he made and it is an abomination to God." He said, "I must change my life because it is a life of darkness. I will no longer be dating guys anymore." He claim I am the greatest guy he has ever dated and Im a good person. However, he must live his life right from now on. I asked him was he scared and he did admit he was scared. Now, I don't know if that answered all your questions or not.

[Counselor]

Kudos: trying to move on.

Points deducted for: fast drugs/sex/money.