03-06-2013, 12:58 AM
Is it possible to be addicted to it? would it ruin your relationship if you knew your other half was constantly online?
i had this experience with a guy whom i started dating last year: aside from the silly arguments partners have every now and again, the relationship was going well. we had a great time together most of the time and i believe he was very much into me, and i liked him a lot.
so at one point he upgraded his dumb phone for an S3 and given a big fight we had had months before over his profile on MH, I told him in no uncertain terms that Grindr would not be adorning his screen of icons.
time passed and one night i became suspicious whilst going to a party at some friends house and decided to create a fake grindr account... and there he was ... real pic and everything. i did not confront him that night, i decided to wait and do my own thing for a few days to see what was really going on. i added him as a fav and realised he was online quite often. so i finally decided to send him a message with my fake account - and alas he replied with his email address.
so i visited him at his house the following day whilst pretending nothing was going on - on the contrary i was all over him. he, however, was less than impressed about me being enigmatic and somewhat detached for the past two days and i knew it would be a matter of minutes before the argument started. and started it did. after he was done complaining about not knowing where and with whom i was spending my time with, i showed him his grindr picture. he then elaborated on a conspiracy theory that *my* friends had created that profile in grindr to set him up. of course, i had the email. and he had to admit.
so we split for several months. recently, however, we bumped into each other at several parties in town and began seeing each other again. i thought he had learned his lesson...
curiously enough, though, he has not. he KNEW i would be suspicious about it, he KNEW i had a way of tracking his activity yet after we returned from a weekend trip together there he was again on grindr.
and the story repeats itself. i said nothing, did my own thing one evening after i saw he had spent the whole afternoon online. he then got mad at me when he found me at a nightclub later in the day. when i saw him i went to hug him and be with him but he was upset that i had not invited him over to my house and had failed to tell him what i had been doing. except that *this* time i confronted him and asked him if he wanted to be with other boys. and he said *yes*. i will never know for sure if he was serious or just mad at me. he did pursue me often, spent great time together and demonstrated jealousy when i was not around; but he just couldnt let grindr out of our lives. in any case, its over.
i understand grindr is an app to find casual *SEX*. am i wrong here? is there a place for Grindr in a relationship?
i had this experience with a guy whom i started dating last year: aside from the silly arguments partners have every now and again, the relationship was going well. we had a great time together most of the time and i believe he was very much into me, and i liked him a lot.
so at one point he upgraded his dumb phone for an S3 and given a big fight we had had months before over his profile on MH, I told him in no uncertain terms that Grindr would not be adorning his screen of icons.
time passed and one night i became suspicious whilst going to a party at some friends house and decided to create a fake grindr account... and there he was ... real pic and everything. i did not confront him that night, i decided to wait and do my own thing for a few days to see what was really going on. i added him as a fav and realised he was online quite often. so i finally decided to send him a message with my fake account - and alas he replied with his email address.
so i visited him at his house the following day whilst pretending nothing was going on - on the contrary i was all over him. he, however, was less than impressed about me being enigmatic and somewhat detached for the past two days and i knew it would be a matter of minutes before the argument started. and started it did. after he was done complaining about not knowing where and with whom i was spending my time with, i showed him his grindr picture. he then elaborated on a conspiracy theory that *my* friends had created that profile in grindr to set him up. of course, i had the email. and he had to admit.
so we split for several months. recently, however, we bumped into each other at several parties in town and began seeing each other again. i thought he had learned his lesson...
curiously enough, though, he has not. he KNEW i would be suspicious about it, he KNEW i had a way of tracking his activity yet after we returned from a weekend trip together there he was again on grindr.
and the story repeats itself. i said nothing, did my own thing one evening after i saw he had spent the whole afternoon online. he then got mad at me when he found me at a nightclub later in the day. when i saw him i went to hug him and be with him but he was upset that i had not invited him over to my house and had failed to tell him what i had been doing. except that *this* time i confronted him and asked him if he wanted to be with other boys. and he said *yes*. i will never know for sure if he was serious or just mad at me. he did pursue me often, spent great time together and demonstrated jealousy when i was not around; but he just couldnt let grindr out of our lives. in any case, its over.
i understand grindr is an app to find casual *SEX*. am i wrong here? is there a place for Grindr in a relationship?
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