Given the choice, would you become single forever? Or even single and celibate or asexual?
Imagine all the fun you could have by yourself. Or imagine loneliness.
I think... Maybe I would, I think I'd want to be, if I were in total control asexual, single and successful at a personal level.
Although I'd want to have at least one friend. Mainly so it won't be weird eating at a reataurant or doing EVERYTHING by myself. Some things are a little more fun, but not necessarily better with a friend. Eg: going to a haunted house: more dun with friend, but better experience alone.
Well that was a long ramble.
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Not really. I think I might be okay with it for a really long time and the asexual part doesn't bother me very much. But in the end I'd end up changing my mind and feeling lonely again. Friends are great and everything but I don't think they can cover everything I want from life.
Besides, then I'd have to scratch loads of things from my bucketlist. Like traveling across the world with a partner. And you can't just re-write those things!
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And give up what I have now? No way.
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i was single till about 40y old; i could have accomplished a lot more with the right man during that time.
on the down side you can accomplish a lot less with the wrong partner
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I have done bouts of single alone without being lonely.
And there was a time in my life I thought I was destined to a life of celibacy.
But, I know I am a better person when I am part of a duo. My partners have tended to balance me out, bring me out of my shell, cause me to care a bit more about the world, cause me to learn new things.
Alone (but not lonely) I tend to retreat deeply into my solitude, and that is sort of a dangerous thing.
I am too fine with being alone - as in if I didn't have even a roommate you most likely wouldn't hear from me. I would become very reclusive and not bother to maintain friendships.
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Been there; done that.
Single my whole life except for 3 months when I was 35--and lost my virginity--until last year when I got serious with my current BF.
There is *something* to be said for spending time alone; getting to know yourself; the freedom; the self reliance.
But enough is enough.
Ultimately most things are better in life when shared. There's a certain "validation" you received when partnered.
So yes, enjoy being single for a while, but do not limit yourself.
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After the crushing depression i had from being single? I'll pass.
Mick
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if i was single then my best friend would still be part of my life , so i'd be happy ~
but i'm also happy that i'm in a relationship
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"A joy shared is a joy doubled." (Goethe)
Given the choice, I would be partnered. Being single is fine, as long as I have good friends to share with. I prefer being in an intimate relationship, though. Sharing experiences together over time is incredibly rich.
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