I agree with Bowyn Aerrow. But at the same time, for whatever reason, if you derive that sense of belonging, love, affection and togetherness without sex, then EXCELLENT. Some cannot. Some are addicted to sex, that is the amazing thing about human diversity, something for everybody. Do you enjoy life? Are you able to share it with the one you love? Then no need to listen to others. Enjoy! Be Happy.
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You're just not being kinky enough.
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Hmm....a 24 year old gay man living in one of Florida's most gay-friendly and supportive communities - and you find sex "boring?" Something just dosn't add up.
Now, here's also an example of a guy posting a question here without much background. I mean, your post generates more questions than answers.
For example, if you said, "I'm going to college and in an advanced pre-law program AND i work part time, AND live at home with my parents," i think we could all agree that a schedule like that dosn't leave a lot of time for socializing (or sex). So, can you tell us a bit more about your life right now? For example:
1) Are you still in college or working? If working, what field? If school, what area are you studying?
2) Are you OUT 100% to friends and family? If not, why not?
3) Is that pic in your profile really you? (I ask this because your question sounds more like questions on here from guys who feel that their physical appearance makes them undesirable and that translates into a negative attitude toward sex because of feeling rejected and having poor self esteem.)
4) What do you do with your free time? Hobbies?
5) Have you been in an LTR yet? If so, was it with a guy or gal?
6) Regarding the sex you've had, and i know you don't want to share details) waht did you do? Kiss? rim? Oral, Anal, mutual masturbation, toys?
7) Do you have a preference as to a position? (top, bottom, verse, verse-top, verse-bottom)
8) DO you masturbate? If so, do you watch porn? If so, is there a kind of porn that excites you more?
I have alot of life-experience, and think i could provide you some good advice based on your responses.
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You sir are an abomination!
Lol the word abomination sounds makes me thing of the abominable snowman
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I dont know to add anything as lot of good things been said, i agree than there are different flavors, and being gay we are like pic an mix, i hope you find a way to sort it out and be happy (even if it means become a monk) when i was younger and i became sure i liked guys, i never put any real thought into the sex part, that was not my thoughts, and it was bit scary, and mostly it just hurt a bit and i want to please the guy im with and make him go wow. Maybe your meeting guys who are everything you like, maybe clean cut and could take home to meet mum, but there not turn on for you, maybe you are fussy and you just need a real emmaculate hottie (like myself, joke! Lol) maybe you like a petit guy with a cute small bum, not tall broad guy, maybe your straight, maybe your attracted to guys on a level but it doesnt add up to how your bodys will corespond
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BobInTampa Wrote:Hmm....a 24 year old gay man living in one of Florida's most gay-friendly and supportive communities - and you find sex "boring?" Something just dosn't add up.
Ive been to Fort Lauderdale a few times, even looked for work there. Not during "spring fling" though....LOL.
I found Fort Lauderdale to be very quiet, subdued, and clean. I preferred it to Miami.
Now Hollywood was what I thought Fort Lauderdale would be....old, run down, dirty, rude people, etc....
Found it fascinating though, how people changed so drastically from one town to another, being right next to each other.
Well, I got off the subject.
College people are another pigeon-holed, stereotyped, stigmata. Not all college people are rambunctious, loud, drunk, drugged up, sex crazed war mongers.
Just like all other bad images and stereotypes out there (including gay), people ONLY think thats the way it is because of the media. And thats sad, because they dont show the fun all othe other college kids have by going to tournaments, inventing new things, helping discover new ways....hell, I read a SMALL story in the news last year where this college girl would have rather invest her time in her astronomy than partying....and it paid off. She discovered an asteroid or something and they allowed her to name it.
And it may just be that your in college. More important things to think about than sex. You know? Once you graduate and get a good job and find a nice guy to date....you may ride him raw. LOL
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Also spontanaity (yes i cant spell) sometimes it can be like a boardmeeting which really takes the jazz out of it, billy connelly said joke once where two guys met, the first guy bends over, when nothing happens he looks behind him and see`s the 2nd guy bending over and looking back at him lol billy connelly said it better!
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Thank you all for your responses… I actually didn´t expect so many ._.
Counselor Wrote:I have a direct question for oiram-... I can't spell it right now. Have you ever viewed sexual activity as base, animal, or somewhat lesser than what you are capable of as a human? Nou, I don´t think of sex as something that makes me less in any way.
Ok BobInTampa, I´ll try to answer all your questions the best I can, but I guess you can understand that I´ll reserve some information since this is a public forum (and internet is evil):
1) Are you still in college or working? If working, what field? If school, what area are you studying?
I´m an accountant.
2) Are you OUT 100% to friends and family? If not, why not?
No, for social and appearance-related stuff (the typical issues)
3) Is that pic in your profile really you?
Yes, it´s me (that picture is six months old), and I have no issues with my appearance that I´m aware of.
4) What do you do with your free time? Hobbies?
I read (a lot) and usually go out with friends.
5) Have you been in an LTR yet? If so, was it with a guy or gal?
Yes, but with women. This whole getting used to the gay-thing is slightly new, but the same issue applies for my relations with women. It didn’t start when I started to get involve with men.
6) Regarding the sex you've had, and i know you don't want to share details) waht did you do? Kiss? rim? Oral, Anal, mutual masturbation, toys?
Erms… I´ve had some very passionate lovers I guess, one of them bordering on the ridiculous (for my taste), but I don’t feel comfortable getting into too much detail, sorry.
7) Do you have a preference as to a position? (top, bottom, verse, verse-top, verse-bottom)
…sorry ._.
8) DO you masturbate? If so, do you watch porn? If so, is there a kind of porn that excites you more?Assuming your doctor has tested your hormone levels and there is nothing 'wrong' there, then the issue may be psychological.
Yes and no respectively. I don´t know of any kind of porn that I find enjoyable. I used to like the average kind of porn when I was younger, but I… got bored of that as well.
I´ve never had my hormone´s level tested, I was not even aware that you could actually test that. Is that in my blood? I get annual medical examinations, is this something that should pop up in that kind of tests?
And again, thank you all for your replies, really appreciate it.
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He means buy top or bottom or vise versa, do you like to be penetrated or do the penetrating or "vice versa" oh i knew that was your pic
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partisan Wrote:He means buy top or bottom or vise versa, do you like to be penetrated or do the penetrating or "vice versa" oh i knew that was your pic
Yup, I know what he means
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