Yesterday I told my mom that Im gay and she took it alright she said she still loves me and supports me no matter what. But after yesterday she acts weird shes extra nice and stuff. Im also very worried how my dad will react and my friends. I feel like Im going to lose alot of people because of this. My friends who are straight wont want to talk to me and stuff. I just feel like dying I feel horrible. Please give me some advice. Thx.
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Let me congratulate you on being brave enough to reveal who you are. I'm still dealing with a lot myself and am pretty much in the closet. I know I feel a lot more freer than I did this time last year. From my understanding, people that you wouldn't think support you end up supporting you. You don't have to broadcast your sexuality. Find some gay friends to help build your confidence and esteem. I don't know if you have a Facebook or not but I was truly shocked at how many of my straight and married friends changed their profile picture to support equality. People think more highly of you then you think. Why not feel good enough about yourself to not let what other people think of you determine your mood. Keep in touch! There are some really caring people on this site.
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Gay, Straight, why make a issue of it? If someone asks, say "Yes, why?" There is a difference between admission and broadcasting, so take it easy, enjoy. If your friends are really true friends then they won't care.
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That fear is very common, so you are far from alone. Congratulations, it takes a lot of bravery to even admit to one person something you are afraid will blow up your entire world.
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Congratulations on coming out to your mom. Give her time. She will adjust and return to her normal behavior. Until then "extra nice" is nothing to complain about, right? Take your time and don't force the issue with the rest of your friends and family. Allow yourself your own process as it feels right to you. At some point it may take on a life of its own as your friends tell friends. You can handle that.
Welcome to GS!
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First let me say congrats on telling your mom about it.
Do not worry too much about her being extra nice ,she is just trying to be there for you.
Us mothers make great battering rams, and have your back when things come to shove.
Sweetie you have to take your time with this , look for your comfort level as a measure, you will know when it is the right time to come all the way out.
I know you fear losing people ,but give them time to get used to it.
And besides a true friend will understand and be there for you.
Welcome to G.S.
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