06-24-2013, 08:35 PM
Here's my story, maybe it can help.
I'm 34, I'm a Drill Sergeant at Ft Benning GA, and I have been an Infantryman in the United States Army for 12 years.
I spent most of my life pursuing women, and occasionally seeing men on the side. The first guy I was with was a guy who lived in my bldg when I was 21. It was very confusing for me, I couldn't understand why it had happened, or what was going on in my head. After about a year of soul searching I decided I was a guy who would occaisonally enjoy playing with other guys.
That was where my head was for years, until I met a guy in Germany that I fell for, not just for sex, but I wanted to be with him. It didn't work out, but I had been with a couple guys to this point so I started to think of myself as Bi.
So for years I thought of myself as Bi. Fast forward to November if last year. I met a man in Atlanta and just fell head over heels for him. I spent a lot of time with him, and he's one of the keys to my discovering who I really am. I also met a man In El Paso who helped me a lot to.
What all this verbiage comes down to is that in the last six months I've become comfortable and confident in who I am, I'm a gay man.
Now that I know who I am, I can date and look and find what I want, which I've been doing.
I use the gay dating apps a lot, a lot of people don't like them and I certainly can understand that, but I've had good sucess.
If you are uncomfortable about your first meeting with someone, make it in a public place, talk, and go from there. Small steps brother.
Richard
I'm 34, I'm a Drill Sergeant at Ft Benning GA, and I have been an Infantryman in the United States Army for 12 years.
I spent most of my life pursuing women, and occasionally seeing men on the side. The first guy I was with was a guy who lived in my bldg when I was 21. It was very confusing for me, I couldn't understand why it had happened, or what was going on in my head. After about a year of soul searching I decided I was a guy who would occaisonally enjoy playing with other guys.
That was where my head was for years, until I met a guy in Germany that I fell for, not just for sex, but I wanted to be with him. It didn't work out, but I had been with a couple guys to this point so I started to think of myself as Bi.
So for years I thought of myself as Bi. Fast forward to November if last year. I met a man in Atlanta and just fell head over heels for him. I spent a lot of time with him, and he's one of the keys to my discovering who I really am. I also met a man In El Paso who helped me a lot to.
What all this verbiage comes down to is that in the last six months I've become comfortable and confident in who I am, I'm a gay man.
Now that I know who I am, I can date and look and find what I want, which I've been doing.
I use the gay dating apps a lot, a lot of people don't like them and I certainly can understand that, but I've had good sucess.
If you are uncomfortable about your first meeting with someone, make it in a public place, talk, and go from there. Small steps brother.
Richard