05-08-2013, 11:05 PM
This is one of the many stories you've already heard on these forums. Nothing new I guess, apart from the fact that it is happening to me.
I've been in a relationship for 7 years and I don't love him the way I used to. And sex is nonexistant or plain bad.... it used to be great *sigh*. If I'm realistic he is still sexy, but I just can't get turned on anymore. Friends love him (so i guess he still is charming) and he's such a nice person. A friend of his friends. Really, a person you meet and you like right away.
But I'm his boyfriend and I've never felt so alone as now. We don't do anything together and we don't have interests in common. Not blaming him. Not even blaming myself. This is just how things are at the moment.
I've been trying to improve things, approaching for sex (rejected or "let's finish soon") and last holidays were very sad for me. I cried from time to time. I have this feeling he also wants a way out, but at the same time he shows interest in keeping the relationship alive... or is it me who wants to believe that?
Probably because of this longing for love, I have now a crush with a straight coworker. Such a classic. I've been always rolling eyes when I hear this tale and now it's happening to me. Oh you know him, the perfect guy. He even treats me like crap and I still like him. Yes, pathetic.
And here I am having to make a decision, leave him and face loneliness and potentially die alone, or stick with him because less is nothing.
Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to know if any of you have been here and how it worked out.
I've been in a relationship for 7 years and I don't love him the way I used to. And sex is nonexistant or plain bad.... it used to be great *sigh*. If I'm realistic he is still sexy, but I just can't get turned on anymore. Friends love him (so i guess he still is charming) and he's such a nice person. A friend of his friends. Really, a person you meet and you like right away.
But I'm his boyfriend and I've never felt so alone as now. We don't do anything together and we don't have interests in common. Not blaming him. Not even blaming myself. This is just how things are at the moment.
I've been trying to improve things, approaching for sex (rejected or "let's finish soon") and last holidays were very sad for me. I cried from time to time. I have this feeling he also wants a way out, but at the same time he shows interest in keeping the relationship alive... or is it me who wants to believe that?
Probably because of this longing for love, I have now a crush with a straight coworker. Such a classic. I've been always rolling eyes when I hear this tale and now it's happening to me. Oh you know him, the perfect guy. He even treats me like crap and I still like him. Yes, pathetic.
And here I am having to make a decision, leave him and face loneliness and potentially die alone, or stick with him because less is nothing.
Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to know if any of you have been here and how it worked out.