So came out to my girlfriend....

[megumidesu]

This is probably gonna sound horrible, but if you're bisexual and want to have a girlfriend - keep it to yourself. When you are with her, you are straight. You have sex, you love her, you're like any other straight guy. However, the fact that she knows that you'd fuck another guy just freaks her out... it's almost as if you told her you're completely gay.

Coming out to girlfriends/wives is a total ridicule, if you ask me.

Good luck anyway.

uh , no.
a person's sexuality doesn't change because of who they're in a relationship with. a bisexual person in a relationship with someone of either gender is still bisexual . they don't suddenly become gay when they in a same sex relationship , and they're not straight in a heterosexual one. that's just the relationship they're in.

being in a relationship doesn't mean that he's going to stop being attracted to both men and women , it just means that he shouldn't do anything about it (assuming the relationship is monogamous.)

why should he keep it to himself ? honesty in relationships is important . just because things didn't work out with this particular girlfriend doesn't mean he should always keep it secret . future girlfriends / boyfriends might be more understanding and accepting . and , frankly , if they're not then he should be with someone who is anyway.

if i was bisexual , i would want my girlfriend/boyfriend to accept that part of me as much as any other part of me.

[Jason111]

What I meant is that being in a straight relationship, even though you're bi, means that you will be only with that person and have(straight) intimate moments with them. So, basically, nothing gay about it.
He won't probably go around and screw other guys or girls, so why is it so relevant?

I decided once I should come out to my girlfriend. She freaked. Even though, 2 years ago she came out to me as bisexual. I think girls are taking it very personally when you tell them you're attracted to guys as well. Not everything is purple and shiny, Dorothy.

[Adi]

What I meant is that being in a straight relationship, even though you're bi, means that you will be only with that person and have(straight) intimate moments with them. So, basically, nothing gay about it.
He won't probably go around and screw other guys or girls, so why is it so relevant?

I decided once I should come out to my girlfriend. She freaked. Even though, 2 years ago she came out to me as bisexual. I think girls are taking it very personally when you tell them you're attracted to guys as well. Not everything is purple and shiny, Dorothy.

Yes, but according to your profile you're gay. Of course she freaked out.

Anyways, a woman that would freak out that her boyfriend's bisexual isn't the right person for said bisexual man (same would apply to a gay guy who freaks out when he learns his boyfriend's bi).

[megumidesu]

What I meant is that being in a straight relationship, even though you're bi, means that you will be only with that person and have(straight) intimate moments with them. So, basically, nothing gay about it.
He won't probably go around and screw other guys or girls, so why is it so relevant?

I decided once I should come out to my girlfriend. She freaked. Even though, 2 years ago she came out to me as bisexual. I think girls are taking it very personally when you tell them you're attracted to guys as well. Not everything is purple and shiny, Dorothy.

even if you're not having sex with anyone else , you're still attracted to different people.