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Anonymous · 06-08-2013, 11:48 PM

By sex, I mean, anal sex. I am freaking out. Just, the thought of my prostrate, I don't know. I am freaking out. I am freaking out. Anal sex has been freaking me out lately. I never had sex before. I think about, other things, but anal sex, I don't know.

06-08-2013, 11:54 PM

well, nobody says you have to make love that way. There are couples that don't and they are in love and happy. Don't stress about something that doesn't need to happen if you don't want to. When you have a boyfriend you can show him your love many different ways.

06-09-2013, 12:28 AM

Just to echo what Nick9 said,

You never have to do something you don't want to. "Gay" encompasses much more than anal sex, despite what the mainstream believes. In fact, it's not even a prerequisite.

Freaking out about anal sex? Then there's only one solution: don't have anal sex..... unless you want to, which you may in the future.

Who knows?

Anonymous · 06-09-2013, 12:39 AM

I know I don't have to, and I certainly am not one to judge other people. It's just, when it comes to fantasizing, I find it isn't hard to think what I don't want to think. Liking it then but not after the sex part of the brain turns off. It's hard to explain.

06-09-2013, 12:40 AM

Calm down over there! The first time you actually try, do it calmly and slowly. If you still don't feel alright about it then... just don't do it anymore. I guess you don't even have to try it at all if you feel so strongly about it... in any case it's up to you! Smile

Alternatively you could buy some toy and try it on your own the first time. Perhaps being in full control will make it easier to deal with for you?

06-09-2013, 12:48 AM

LOL it seems that it IS hard to explain. I feel lost even after reading your post three times.
Or I am just slow Smile

If you don't want to, it's ok. You will need to talk with your partner about it.
If you want to have it, but you are afraid, then what about exploring your body by yourself first? It's also possible that after you meet the right boy or man, you will relax and slowly change your opinion.

06-09-2013, 01:00 AM

you know, I wonder if you watch porn a lot? Maybe you should stop, if you do. The guys are just doing it and there are no feelings shown. I saw just one where they actually made love. Big difference. You would see that the thing that freaks you out is not the most important what is going on in the room.

And another thing, the guys in porn are usually well endowed. It's unlikely that your first will look like that.

Calm down Smile

06-09-2013, 03:26 AM

Get a vibrating dildo. Name it. Make it your best friend. Make dinner for it, light candles, write it poems. Once you're comfortable together, your dildo should politely ask if you are ready before turning the setting up.

Maybe you're just a top.

06-09-2013, 03:31 AM

ugh now I want sex -.-

Freedom of choice. Sex is an expression too so keep that in mind and you can have sex in many ways. There's more than just anal sex for us homos.

Anonymous · 06-09-2013, 03:31 AM

Counselor Wrote:Get a vibrating dildo. Name it. Make it your best friend. Make dinner for it, light candles, write it poems. Once you're comfortable together, your dildo should politely ask if you are ready before turning the setting up.

Maybe you're just a top.

That's the thing, I'm not a top - I'm kind of a, guy who wants to be dominated. But, being dominated, kind of has getting it in the job description. I think about it sometimes, and it's like "woe, did I just think about that?" and I think like "what I bleed" and "it must be so painful what am I thinking?"