LateBloomer Wrote:Not crazy.
But I think the ability to be alone for a period of time is a useful life experience. We need time, especially at a younger age, to learn how to cope as independent individuals--develop our own identity and values....
THEN...
...later, when we have all our ducks in a row, life becomes richer when shared with someone who has the same values and sense of "self". Self knowledge.
Enjoy the freedom of your youth. You have the rest of your life to be in a committed relationship.
JMHO.
I experienced this, but the opposite way around.
When I was younger I was a bit lost in life and felt similar to the OP. After plenty of life experience with interesting jobs, a few broken relationships and some time for my brain to properly develop I have learnt to relish my alone time.
Of course I'd love a relationship, and I've been single for a while now. I tend to not proceed very far at ALL with people relationship wise unless there is chemistry, without chemistry I just have no intimate or sexual interest.
I also feel (and have experienced) that after that initial chemistry phase, when that person becomes a part of your life, you are attracted to them (and love them) for a different reason, but thats all about success in getting through the 'honeymoon period' I guess!
edit:
as for chemistry, its more common than you think at least in my experience.
ie; that butterfly rush and the fuzzy head feeling when chatting with someone you've never met, despite physical looks. To me it is just a feeling, and its usually either the first, or very close to the first time I get to properly speak with them. My experience of this has been unrelated to looks, and at least in the past 4 years has mostly been average, everyday looking people ... but they all had something
(maybe its pheromones or my brain subconsciously telling me that they would be an ideal mate, who knows)