06-29-2013, 11:23 PM
I've recently split up with my boyfriend of about 2 months. I know we've only been dating a short time really but the fact is I am gutted. He was such a lovely, sweet guy. He is really clever and really good looking. He was from Lithuania and could speak 3 languages (Russian, Lithuanian, and English) fluently. He's also doing a PhD in Microbiological research at the University of Warwick.
By contrast I can only speak English and a bit of French very badly! I only have a BA in Sociology and feel I cannot compete with him. I know its silly, life shouldn't be a competition but the fact it society drills it into us that we should in fact compete against each other in every aspect of life so I keep thinking 'how can I compete with him'?
Anyway I digress! Point is he split up with me two weeks ago and I cannot get over him. I've dated quite a few guys though I've only ever had 3 boyfriends including him. But out of all of them I feel he is the one. I was under the impression he loved me and he said he had a big crush on me at first. However, after he got back from his holiday in Bulgaria he said he started having doubts about our relationship.
But he kept these doubts to himself and didn't tell me anything. As far as I was concerned nothing was amiss. He stayed with me for a full weekend with no problems. But when we met up one night two weeks ago he announced he didn't want to be with me all of a sudden.
I did not anticipate this at all and had no prior warning. I found out he'd been having these doubts since he got back from his holiday.
a number of things bother me deeply here:
1. Why did he not mention this sooner? Why go out with me for two months if he had doubts after the first month?
2. Why would someone go abroad and come back having changed their minds about their relationship? I do not understand why someone would do this.
3. Why would he have these doubts and still stay a whole weekend at mine without saying a thing and leaving me none the wiser?!
4. He broke up with me because he thought I wasn't right for him personality wise. Yet after we split up he mentions he likes my intelligence and the fact that apparently 'I am cute'.? these are aspects of my personality yet he doesn't think my personality is compatible with what he's after? This does not compute!
Anyway I am still upset and I keep thinking about him. I've asked him to reconsider and needless to say he won't do that. Which makes me wonder what I am supposed to do now?
Why would he just dump me when we had a future together and got on so well?! He should've given it more of a go!
By contrast I can only speak English and a bit of French very badly! I only have a BA in Sociology and feel I cannot compete with him. I know its silly, life shouldn't be a competition but the fact it society drills it into us that we should in fact compete against each other in every aspect of life so I keep thinking 'how can I compete with him'?
Anyway I digress! Point is he split up with me two weeks ago and I cannot get over him. I've dated quite a few guys though I've only ever had 3 boyfriends including him. But out of all of them I feel he is the one. I was under the impression he loved me and he said he had a big crush on me at first. However, after he got back from his holiday in Bulgaria he said he started having doubts about our relationship.
But he kept these doubts to himself and didn't tell me anything. As far as I was concerned nothing was amiss. He stayed with me for a full weekend with no problems. But when we met up one night two weeks ago he announced he didn't want to be with me all of a sudden.
I did not anticipate this at all and had no prior warning. I found out he'd been having these doubts since he got back from his holiday.
a number of things bother me deeply here:
1. Why did he not mention this sooner? Why go out with me for two months if he had doubts after the first month?
2. Why would someone go abroad and come back having changed their minds about their relationship? I do not understand why someone would do this.
3. Why would he have these doubts and still stay a whole weekend at mine without saying a thing and leaving me none the wiser?!
4. He broke up with me because he thought I wasn't right for him personality wise. Yet after we split up he mentions he likes my intelligence and the fact that apparently 'I am cute'.? these are aspects of my personality yet he doesn't think my personality is compatible with what he's after? This does not compute!
Anyway I am still upset and I keep thinking about him. I've asked him to reconsider and needless to say he won't do that. Which makes me wonder what I am supposed to do now?
Why would he just dump me when we had a future together and got on so well?! He should've given it more of a go!