A discovery about myself

[VileKyle]

I do a lot of deep thinking about myself and the world around me while everyone here is sleeping. Usually it just helps me keep my mind active, but sometimes I discover new things. The last time it was when I accepted my sexuality, but I think I've taken that a step further. At first I wasn't sure if it was the act of sex itself, my own gender identity, or my thoughts of an actual relationship with someone that I care about. Out of those, the relationship is the most important, but now I've realized something more.

What attracts me to someone, both emotionally and physically, before even getting to a relationship is their face. My mind doesn't even seem to notice anything but that, nor does it differentiate much between genders. I love seeing someone with a genuine smile and I feel for the pain behind the sadness in a face. Physically, I love kissing and rarely go beyond that unless motivated. I could get lost so easily in someone's eyes and the rest of the world wouldn't matter anymore.

I am a facesexual (what a stupid term. I will stop using that now. Haha). If we could all be floating heads with no bodies or the gender-specific organs attached to them, I would be more than happy. I don't like the use of body language or dancing. I can experience everything through someone by just communicating and sharing with their face. I still go along with the motions of others' needs, but I don't feel a pull to participate like that until my partner engages me.

I'm starting to wonder if I'm one of the rare few like this or if there are many others around who feel the same way. Could this benefit me by knowing this now, or will it be a hindrance in relationships? I may have to feel this out more to get a better grip on it, but I felt like I had to share while it was fresh in my mind.

And no, I am not on drugs. :tongue:

[partisan]

Good post.

Its so true. People often say the eyes are the window to the soul, but i believe the mouth too, and even the nose and all the rest (though particullarly eyes and mouth)


A face says a lot more about a person than if they are good looking or not, like thats our first impression, but we (as people) learn to like that which we associate with bringing us joy, happiness, contentment, security, love, so the lines and countours of a face can take wide and varied meanings to different people.

Yes whats underneath is important but some things are written on our faces you cant put into words, and i dont mean a snap shot but when were talking etc. its interesting, like... i can always tell if people are lying (theres really no point trying, cos you will end up looking silly)

[Canfer]

Well, I guess I'm only partly like you.
I also really like to appreciate the face... I could stand there for a long time staring at the same place, and look on the eyes to see the mood that someone is feeling on that moment (even to see if someone is telling the truth or not), but I also like the use of body language and dance, and that's where I differ xD.
About your questions... Knowing that you found a bit more of yourself is good, and in this case I think it will benefit in a relationship, because that person will see that, when you're observing his/her face, he/she will interpret as if you're listening to him (when talking), or, when things are more advanced, he/she will be glad that you like one more thing about him/her.

[partisan]

And to add to that, sometimes you can feel uneasy when someones staring at your face for ages.