Feeeling increasingly "bi" - should I act on my feelings?

[peterparker909]

HI all - I'm new around here, please be gentle

Okay, so here's the thing:

I'm a regular guy who (if asked) identifies himself as straight, and I'm in a regular straight relationship. I'm happy with my life, and yet...

...well, I've often imagined indulging various not-entirely-stratight fantasies, but recently they've become much more regular and, erm... vivid, shall we say. I won't go into details, but oral (giving) and anal (receiving) feature pretty heavily.

I'm pretty open-minded and am really not phased by the idea that I might not be as straight as I claim to be (obviously!), but I've never had a gay experience and I increasingly feel the urge to actually explore and act on this side of my sexuality. If I don't, will I always wonder if I'm denying a part of myself, and will it always be a nagging source of frustration?

So, should I act on these feelings? If so, how? Has anyone else faced a similar dilemma?

Thanks for your advice.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Who is filling your head with these images?

Would it be porn?

bi sexual men and gay men don't identify their sexuality because of sex and sex acts, there is a plethora of other deeper, more meaningful emotions that come into play. If you find yourself wanting to cuddle, snuggle and date and live with a man like a gal, then chances are you are bi.

If all you want to do is suck dick and get your ass pounded you are just sexual.

[MovinOn]

I thought you are in a relationship. Are you in an open relationship? If you're not then you are considering cheating.

[VileKyle]

To repeat what's been said here before: forget the labels. Just be yourself, whatever that means to you.

[sukkkiko]

You might be gay or just curious. Nothing to be confused about. The question is whether you should act on it. (In my opinion) since you are in a relationship I suggest you don't. Not because it's cheating and all that, but more importantly because - even if you're being careful - if something goes unexpectedly wrong and you catch something you will pass it to your girlfriend. The same goes for any gender you sleep with outside the relationship. So, if you have such thoughts I say you should go and explore them and have fun, however, do that after you've broken up.

[TimeSage]

As long as you are in a committed relationship the awnser is "No"

[VileKyle]

Meh. I "identified" as straight while in straight relationships for a long time. Coming out doesn't have to happen early in life. Then again, I'm not saying this isn't just a bunch of fantasies. Just focus on that relationship you're in now though.

[VileKyle]

I think he's identifying as curious right now. It means he ain't sure.

[VileKyle]

Well aren't we all just a big friendly bunch, anyways? Have a cupcake! I made it myself.


These posts make a lot less sense with the responses in-between missing.

[seeking]

do you sometimes find some guys on the street attractive and get turn on by them?

if no then maybe you are just getting curious by the sexual act itself but not being gay

and as many said you are in a relationship better not do harmful things