I don't like... SEX?

[sillyboy86]

Gosh, this time I decided to write as anonymous, so... ok, I made a mistake, no problem. XD

For someone maybe I did something a little 'unwise for others a normal thing... Few days ago I joined a famous dating website, I'm already egistered to others, but without ever having met anyone, and this in few hours I received some interesting answer.
So, after a chat with that nice guy we decided to meet in a club in the central London, and we drink, we talk and dance, maybe at the end he was a little drunk (but only a little, maybe only a little happy than normal) and we tried to go to his home... And you know.

Talk about that it's very very embarassing but...

Honestly, I'm not old, but not so young, but it was my first time with a boy and, was definitely a FLOP. Disastrous night.
At the beginning I tried to top but maybe I was so shy, I don't know, and he, very kindly told me 'do you prefer to bottom?'. I was a little scared but we tried.
Obviously at the beginning was a little painful.
I don't know how long his penis entered and left into me, definitely for a very long time, but he wouldn't came, we tried many positions, we take a shower-break in the middle, and at the end I apologized but i was very very tired. XD
And his cock was still hard...
Gosh, maybe it's funny now, but it was very ugly and embarrassing, I thought (and think) it's my fault, and I told that to him.

I tried to be fucked, i tried to suck, i tried to masturbate him, and I realized this tragicomic thing: I CANNOT MANAGE A PENIS.

He's be kind and cute, after the flop we passed the night in bed, naked and embraced for all the time, he was the first and only guy to see me naked, and to feel my body. i don't know, i really enjoied the "after flop time" I was pleasured and a little excited, caressed and kissed her entire body a hundred of times or more...
And the morning after we wake up very close, with my morning glory touching him, and we tried to masturbate together and this time I'm not coming...

But I really liked him. We spend the rest of the morning talking, doing a breakfast and then returing to our everyday life... And he was very nice. I felt like an ungrateful.

OH, another embarassing/funny thing is that now I have the after effects of anal sex... Gosh.

i hope you enjoyed reading my little mishap... And I'm looking for some tips, I don't know which kind of tips...

[TKC]

Wait, your first sexual experience with a man was awkward? Totally normal, dude. Totally totally normal.

My list in 3 digits, and no matter who it is, I RARELY cum the first time. As long as the experience was enjoyable and he was kind/understanding, I'd say do it again. If you're anything like me, it'll take like an hour to get off - constantly working towards it -but it'll be awesome. The third time is when things start to normalize, for me at least.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I fail to see the problem.

I take it you are a 'virgin' thus don't have the wealth of experience that a non-virgin has....

If it was me, I would make you practice over and over again until you pass the oral exam....

Practice does make perfect.:tongue:

[pellaz]

... And I'm looking for some tips, I don't know which kind of tips...

avoid asparagus but ask him over for dinner
ask him over again to finish it.

[Geminize]

Sillyboy!

Honestly, that sounds like a successful 1st time! Sure, you didn't explode with fireworks and rainbow cum on the ceiling... but give yourself a break. Anybody's 1st time can be awkward.

"He's been kind and cute, after the flop we passed the night in bed, naked and embraced for all the time..."
So you flip-flopped with this guy, neither of you climaxed, you felt awkward and embarrassed, AND you still spent the whole night in each other's arms? Then chatted over breakfast the next morning? That's awesome!!!

My only tip is to try it again. First spend some time getting to know each other. This guy sounds like he's worth it. As you relax together the sex may follow.

[AlfredM]

I know nothing about having a good sex,but I have to agree with Geminize,if he's still there with you after such experience,he's worth it. You just need to get to know each other more and maybe next time you could ask what kind of thing he like in sex?

[MisterLove]

You should see MY disastrous dates

Nothing disastrous about it, in fact it seems like a great evening.

You met a great guy, you had fun, you slept together. What more could you ask for?!

Most gay dates usually take place in a sauna and don't last longer than 5 minutes.

[MisterLove]

[...] but he wouldn't came, [...]

Again, nothing wrong with that.

Some guys take ages to cum but that's usually a good thing - premature ejaculation would be the real problem, not this. There's a condition called anorgasmy but I'm sure it wasn't his case. Maybe this was an effect of alcohol or some medication (alpha blockers and certain antidepressants can delay ejaculation) or maybe he's just a stud that likes to fuck for hours.

Ejaculation and detumescence are controlled by the sympathetic nervous system, so I believe that men who last longer probably have a more active parasympathetic nervous system. It doesn't mean they are not having pleasure, they're just 'made' that way.

Until recently, I used to take an alpha blocker called phentolamine to improve my sexual performance. Phentolamine works by blocking sympathetic action in the penis, so you get stronger erections and you last longer.

[sillyboy86]

Gosh, thanks to everyone, tomorrow i will re-read your answers and thinking about...

However...
He called me tonight asking when we can meet again... ;-) We talked a little bit cause he is very busy these days, and that day was a break.
I was very glad, and I told him.

I need to take everything easy, I know. ;-) Honestly I'm a little scared about p e n i s ... LOL
Another nice thing is that he is a bottom (not that night, he was like a bull...) and I feel that I'm a top...