This probably isnât an advice you are hoping for but thatâs the only thing I can offer. I knew Iâm gay since forever, even before I knew that word, and I never told a single soul (well okay I did once to a new friend out of fear she might think Iâm hitting on her, but it was unnecessary, she knew on her own), people just knew, the same way they know someoneâs hetero I think. Iâm not obvious, I donât âact gayâ as some call it (although Iâm interested in cooking, interior design and hate football/soccer, but many straight guys do too ... I like hockey by the way XD), except when obviously fooling around, but I donât try to purposefully hid it and those who care about me - know. Guess they notice Iâm not staring at girlâs tits but guysâ butts and stuff like that
You know, tiny hints that come up in innocent conversations and that kind of stuff. And those who donât care enough to notice little things like that? Sorry but I donât think itâs their business anyway, I donât walk around asking people if they like brunettes or red heads so why would they care if I like guys or girls? If someone asks I answer truthfully because I donât see why I should be hiding that but if they donât ask, then I just donât care what they think, why would I?
I donât know if that kind of behaviour would work for you, since like I said I always knew, I never had that âtransition timeâ when everyone around thought Iâm straight so I donât know if that would work in your situation, theoretically it should but I donât know, the parents thing makes me worried, mine new since I was a baby, so itâs even hard for me to imagine how parents might not notice and what Iâd do if they didnât, but as for friends I canât see why someone should be making a big deal from telling each and every of their friends and acquaintance, who they like, straight people donât why would we? (Unless of course someone wants to and feels they need that kind of ârevelationâ for various reasons). Just you know, thought Iâd show you that there is that option as well