Hi, everyone.
Do you know any ways to know if someone is gay?
I have a crush on someone, and for two years, I have never confessed. I don't know. For all this time, I can't get him out of my head. They say love is never wrong, but this?
I'm not that close to him, but he always says hi from time to time.
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I'm not even sure about myself, let alone other people. >_>
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I think the easiest way to find out if you are or may be gay, is to honestly think about these questions:
When you're out and about on the street/beach/wherever, and you're not consciously paying attention, where do you find your eyes drawn to? Guys, girls, both?
And when you're masturbating, do you fantasize about guys? Girls?
Also, try looking at some gay porn. That was quite an eyeopener for me when I was still unsure about my sexuality.
If you can honestly say that you only ever check out girls, you've only ever fantasized about girls (and got aroused as a result), and gay porn does nothing for you.. then I think you can safely assume you're straight. If, however, you answer any of those questions differently, then you may not be as straight as you've probably always assumed. You could be gay, bi, or anything in between (or turn out to be straight after all!). In the end only you can tell. But for now, start with those questions. They told me a lot back when I was still questioning.
And just remember, there's no rush in finding this all out. Hell you don't even have to label yourself at all! If you have a crush on your friend, good for you! Just enjoy those feelings, possibly explore them and have fun. Never mind what it means.
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Thanks, Evan. I'm pretty sure 90% I think about guys when masturbating and more attracted to guys.
Do you know a way to know if the one I have crush on is gay too? I cannot come out and confess to him.
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I find it really hard to tell with a lot of guys honestly. People talk a lot about "gaydar" but in my experience its very hit and miss. Sometimes when I'm talking to a guy I will get a bit of a vibe, but, many times I have no clue. It's usually only when you are close to someone and know them really well that you can honestly make that kind of assessment.
That being said, I take it from your post that you and he are friends. There's no harm in getting closer to a friend, spend time with him, get to know him well. There doesn't have to be any sexual component to it at all. If he does happen to be gay, then the more time you spend with him, the more apparent it will likely become, if not, then you've just gotten a good friend out of the equation, which is worth the effort in and of itself in my opinion.
Richard
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@Ardus
Thank you very much. that's very enlightening, I thought those 'gaydar' thing really works like a miracle. You know, it's been over 2 years, and I can't get a move on with him. We just say hi, without having a topic to discuss.
I'm not sure though if he suspects I'm gay. Everytime I texted him, he never replied. That's what makes me think he 'hates' me, but he is very friendly when we just say hi, at least that's what I see from his mimic.
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It's always hard to tell which way a guy swings, unless they're open about it. There's really no one way to work it out, the "signs" can be different for different people, some people can give no hints to it at all, and some people can give hints that they might be gay, but end up actually being completely straight.
Maybe try to spark up a full conversation with him, and get to know him a little better? That's always a good start. Learn a little about him, tell him a little about yourself, and see where things go from there?
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the gay population is tiny like 3-5% some locations are lower or higher but they lied about the 10%. not a confidence boost for your friend to be gay enough for you. Sorry. If you choose not to approach hm you will always regret it in your life.
get to know your friend and his friends better.
your gay if
you can succeed in a same sex relationship better than a straight one. Not much to do with the sex, porn or how you dress, talk, walk
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Take it from me that I also was friends with someone who had a crush on me and I did not know it.It took a few drinks just chit chatting and being by ourselves that it happened.Crazy part about it I knew I was bi curious but after he was done with me I was hooked.Maybe you should just try to get to know him better.Nothing ventured nothing gained.Good luck.
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build up the courage and just ask - if your not close to him right now then your not loosing a close friend who will regret loosing, if he says yes then you've beaten the odds and I hope you make a lovely couple - he may be thinking of asking you !!! you never know,
as for the odds Pallaz, im really surprised and disappointed - ive as much chance of learning to fly than find a nice bf where I live lol - still keep looking though
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