best friend vs boyfriend

[throbbinblue]

I just want to know what is the difference between best friend and boyfriend. I asked my drunk friend who I consider one of my best friends what the difference was and he just gets mad at me. I just do not understand why he gets so violate when I ask him to describe the difference.
I would love to be his boyfriend, I do love him but to protect my heart I consider him only my best friend.
Tonight I asked him to define the difference between best friend and boyfriend. He would never answer me but had to attack me with my relationship with my mother and my mother has been deceased over 5 years.
I think he has absolutely no idea and he cannot even fake an answer because our relationship is more than best friends. So rather than answer me he attacks me at a vulnerable spot so by hurting me he does not have to deal with his pain....
I still want to know the difference between boyfriend and best friend....and I am not sure if I will ever know the answer.
Let me hear from the choir, ok guys?

[BabyPolarBear]

A consenting 2 way (or 3 or 4 i don't know how some people roll) sexual and/or romantic relationship (except for marriage where their is no sex)

[Edward]

Well, I think the difference is very clear. It is how you see them. You usually don't have sex with your friends, you don't desire your friends. You love your friends with the love of a family. Boyfriend is someone you love romantically. You desire him, you want to make love with him, you want to marry him, spend your life with him. Of course, it has to be mutual to call him your boyfriend.

[sillyboy86]

At the moment is also my problem.

The biggest difference is that you (or me) want to share roughly everything with a boyfriend, everything of your life, the good and the bad and dirty things, the things of everyday, the sex, etc.
With a friend you can share a lot of things too, but not the same amount, not so deeply. With a friend you can choose to only talk about positive things, with your partner you also have to face the difficulties at 100%.

[pellaz]

next time avoid the discussion till everyone is sober.

let me get this right; you are asking a straight man if he wants to be your boy friend. Before you guys go that direction make sure the wiring is there to carry the message.

[throbbinblue]

No he is not straight he is also gay. Last night I finally found out why he keeps throwing my mother in to the mix. Seems he has assumed since I have lots of beautiful furniture and decorative pieces that I have not let go of my mother. I assured him it was all my things, I never like the things my mother liked and it was all gone with the estate sale.
He is very good to me when he is sober and we share many things and have great conversations. When he is drunk he lashes out at me, telling me how much he hates me, does not want to be my boyfriend, calls me stupid, calls me dumb, or calls me a douche bag.
He is the essence of a narcissistic individual. I am currently reading a book about narcissistic people and how to deal with them in your life.

[pellaz]

there is nothing much you can do to stop someone from drinking.
how are you in accepting his decision?
i vote best friend.

[Ryocchi]

And you would love to be his boyfriend because...?

[HomeagainNYC]

[throbbinblue]

And you would love to be his boyfriend because...?

no, I really do not want to be his boyfriend...I have resigned myself to be his best friend as there is a considerable amount difference in our ages. He is the one who keeps bringing up the boyfriend issue and that is why I wanted to know the difference between the two.