09-04-2013, 03:55 AM
So me and my boyfriend broke up about a month and a half ago. Long story short, he has issues and hurt me (not physically, but emotionally). I walked away from him. I was putting 130% into the relationship and he was putting in about 10%. I ignored all the red flags (I know, dumb of me!) because I really cared about him. Over the time in which we dated, I became very close with his family. His family LOVES me and I love them too. Not just his mom and sisters but his cousins and friends as well. They all have contacted me saying how I was such a great guy to him and that he's an idiot for hurting me/letting me walk away. They all have said to me they miss me being around and that I deserve soo much better. It's all very flattering to say the least. They all have asked me to hang out with them (which at first I declined but then they all started giving me a guilt trip and mentioning that my relationship with him was my relationship with him and my relationship with them is my relationship with them.) and of course I did. I find it incredibly hard to move on because they keep inviting me places and telling me they miss me. I don't want to be disrespectful to any of them and shut them out because they did absolutely nothing wrong, its all him. He has mentioned he wants to be friends. I told him perhaps in the future we can be but he would have to earn my respect and trust back and prove to me he wants me in his life. He has not made any effort and is basically a d-bag since I feel like he should be kissing my ass after how he hurt me. It's so hard trying to get over him because I'm continually reminded about him from his friends and family but I do not want to be disrespectful and shut them out. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And how did you handle it?