How can I stop my boyfriend from boxing?

[ardus]

Your boyfriend is an athlete, its part of who he is, it's part of what makes him tick.
I realize its scary and dangerous to you but that's not the way he sees it.
For the athlete its about competitiveness, about testing himself against other men, thats the drive, to be better than them.

It can be dangerous but guess what, life is dangerous. I'm a Soldier, its a dangerous job, would you ask me to quit if you were my boyfriend?
Try to understand him.

Richard

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do still live in Russia. Why?

Yes, he is wearing gloves, but I don't know, does it change anything. I mean, a hit with this glove could be even harder than with a bare fist.

For the person who said it's sexy...... I guess you might've seen some pictures of strong, fit, half naked boxers, but in reality it's not like that. In reality there are bruises and blood and pain and everything like that. How is that sexy?

I understand that he's an athlete and it's a part of his life and I have to respect it. But why boxing? There are hundreds of sports, why does he has to do the one that causes so big damage? I'm not worried because of myself, I'm worried because of him, I want him to be healthy. You cannot constantly receive punches in the face and believe it will not leave any consequences.

[Dreamer]

He's not going to stop, and you can't make him.


Just because you don't understand his passion for boxing
doesn't mean you can take it away from him,
or that he should stop.


Yes, you love him, and fear for his health,
but if you really loved him
you would support him in everything he believes in and pursues.


If he was using drugs, prostituting himself, or something else degrading
then maybe you would have a good reason to object.


At least he's being productive,
and not some lazy slob who with no aspirations.


You should support him,
and maybe even sit in on his matches
to give him an extra incentive to win!


You should break up with him,
if it bothers you so much.

[VileKyle]

I'm with the others on this one. It is wrong in so many ways to try to change someone you are in a relationship with. If they love something, you have to include that in your love for them. If that isn't a possibility, then maybe the relationship isn't right. Boxing is a part of who he is. You should love someone for everything they are or not at all.

[Vigilias]

As someone who escaped from a relationship with a very controlling guy who wanted to change me into a clone of himself, I just wonder why you want to change the person you were attracted to enough to fall in love with.

If you try to change him or stop him from doing what he loves to do he'll resent you for it.

Try to accept this aspect of him.

[Merc]

I understand that he's an athlete and it's a part of his life and I have to respect it. But why boxing? There are hundreds of sports, why does he has to do the one that causes so big damage? I'm not worried because of myself, I'm worried because of him, I want him to be healthy. You cannot constantly receive punches in the face and believe it will not leave any consequences.

Because it's what he loves to do. He's passionate about it. I can see where you are coming from here, but people have a right to do what makes them happy. Honestly, you either need to be supportive and accept it or move on. Pulling someone away from something they love isn't right. I was in a relationship before and was constantly told that I have to do 'this' or 'that' and basically spend the rest of my life chained down behind a desk. Granted, it isn't boxing, but screw that. I left that relationship behind me and started doing what I needed to do.

Wasn't this guy doing the same thing before you two met?

[Anonymous]

Because it's what he loves to do. He's passionate about it. I can see where you are coming from here, but people have a right to do what makes them happy. Honestly, you either need to be supportive and accept it or move on. Pulling someone away from something they love isn't right. I was in a relationship before and was constantly told that I have to do 'this' or 'that' and basically spend the rest of my life chained down behind a desk. Granted, it isn't boxing, but screw that. I left that relationship behind me and started doing what I needed to do.

Wasn't this guy doing the same thing before you two met?

He was, but at first he was just boxing with those boxing bags, which is fine, but later he started to do with other men, who is much stronger than he, I suppose. Otherwise he wouldn't come back black and blue.

[Kenny221]

Hey there, I understand your concerns about your boyfriend...but from what I heard, it is his passion. Passion cannot be explained...there's no 'WHY' boxing, it's just is. It's part of who he is. Boxing is part of his life and it would be selfish of you to ask him to give up something he loves so much.