Dining Alone - Sad or Confident?

[Merc]

I used to get nervous about it, but that was back when I was overly concerned about how other folks perceived me. Insecurity sure was fun >< Nowadays I don't care. If I want to go eat somewhere, I just do it.

[Miles]

3 people so far seem to think that's really sad and pathetic how I did that o.o

Three people who need to get a clue

[Matty71]

I was talking with my friend today, when I mentioned how I went to an Indian Restaurant and had lunch by myself on Thursday (and no I was not wagging school it was a teacher only day).

3 people so far seem to think that's really sad and pathetic how I did that o.o

It's not that I have no friends, it's just that I don't have friends who want to do things with me (i.e I just want to eat) o.o That's not sad is it?

It was an empty restaurant so that makes it less sad right. And I was running errands and it was just lunch and I was reading a book. It's not as sad as it sounds.

How do I friendship. o.o

Oh, it's fine, really.

I can see how some people think it's "sad", but I don't think it really is. I've done this many, many times for lunch when I was working in New York City. In some ways, I preferred dining alone.

[Rosie]

I don't think it's sad at all, I am happily married with close friends and I still love having my alone time. I am a foodie, my wife is anything but, so I frequently eat out alone at restaurants that I know she wouldn't enjoy. I also am not against traveling alone and going to concerts alone -- I thrive on having time where I can just focus on what I want without worrying about someone else's feelings. Do what you want and enjoy yourself, the people who claim that it's sad to dine alone are saying so because they do not have the confidence to.

[MisterLove]

looll Nothing wrong with that, lots and lots of people do it. I do it all the time.

I always eat alone the first time I go to a restaurant, just to see what it's like. If it's really good, then I'll go with friends.

An infallible way to avoid eating alone: learn how to cook really well (and I mean really well) and then invite people over. Nobody says no to a great free meal.

[ajcoog2013]

Since when is it wrong to enjoy one's own company? I would find new friends.
If someone is so co-dependent he cannot eat alone in public, he doesn't need friends, he needs therapy. Find friends who do not need to be joined at the hip to feel "normal."

[justbry87]

I've always thought about this too. I don't really eat out
as often since I usually cook for myself at home, I like it
and I enjoy cooking, but there are a few restaurants that I
wish I can go to, but I always felt kind of weird going by myself.

Like for instance, for awhile now there's this Indian place
that opened up. I love Indian food, I obv can't cook it at home
and have always wanted to go every time I pass by it, but I
always end up putting it off. All my friends live faraway so I
really don't have a choice..

Same thing with bars, I haven't gone to a bar by myself before
either, or if I did, I usually met up with someone there. But always
never alone.

I guess it would be good for me to do it one day. A date with
yourself.

[East]

Neither...I really love the time I get to myself and enjoy dining alone when the opportunity presents itself.

I think people who think it is sad are talking about how THEY feel when THEY dine alone and maybe they think everyone else feels the same way they do...and that is sad

[Sylph]

Gurl my philosophy is, if you need people around to do stuff, don't do it. Because you're not gonna have people around all the time to help you or hang out with you, so pull up your pants and walk your own path.

Being social does not mean being Dependant , and to me, if that's the case it is a Hindrance .

I was born alone, I live alone and will die alone . now true these instances have me surrounded by people, but I am not relying on them for me to function.

People often want to be an us or we instead of a Me first. And I dont Mean vainly.

Go out gurl and have that Meatball sub supreme with extra mozzarella and some cheesy bread sticks on the side and a Grapefruit Juice to swath it all down! Alone to yourself.

Forget the haters, you can function In society independent of social norms and they can't.

[Tim18]

No, I don't think it is sad to dine alone.